Thank you for your thought-provoking comments even though some
are plain funny.
I still doing some soul-searching.Marriage is considered the
cornerstone of a stable society.I really wonder if one have to
really live by the standards of society in order to survive or be
socially accepted by all. In other words, I am hoping to be normal
functioning being. Yes, there will always be people less fortunate
than ourselves. But who does not want improvement and
progress in life? I am simply afraid being otracized or
alienated from others. I really do not want to be labelled as "old
maid" or "unwanted" or "SDU - Single, Desperate and Ugly". I am am
just visualizing the problems in the future if I still remain
single. If I really remain as what I am now, I fear that I may fall
into depression. Its sound scary. you know.
I find it ironic. Some say it is "缘分" (fate). It comes
naturally. Some say I must change myself and acquire some flirting
skills. I really do not know which is which. If it is fated, then
even my flirting skill is up by several notches, what I get may not
be a serious relationship or there may not even be any relationship
at all!
So am I fated to find the right partner or not? I really do
not know.
So, being single is not a normal functioning being? So
you must get a bf, go through the routine of courting for a few
years, then get a HDB, go through the customary wedding then get
pregnant, give birth then slog and slog to pay through your nose
for all the debts you and your future husband accumulated? If that
is what you call a normal functioning being then go ahead.
But seems to me what you are trying to do is conform to this
society's expectation and not your own. You bothered about how
other sees you. And that is just so lame.
Sure, you may say 'yah yah of courselah it's easy for you to say
such since you are attach with someone while I'm all alone in
this whole Singapore' but hey nobody is stopping you from enjoying
yourself being single. You think by having someone is a bed of
roses? It's not as easy as you think for those like us being attach
you know. We have our responsibility. Firstly whatever we do, we
have to think of the other half feelings. We no longer could
afford the luxury to just let down our hair and do whatever we
like, like when we were single or without thinking twice. You!
On the other hand has the priviledge to just take off to anywhere
you like without reporting to anyone. You! Can make decision at the
snap of your fingers without consulting and waiting for the other
half to give his/her consent.
Oh yes, it's nice to have someone to cuddle up to but hey! We do
have our downs too like we have to iron out of differences. It
takes a lot a lot of sacrificing to have a partner. Getting someone
to love or to call your own is not as easy as you think it to
be.
I think a lot here has advice you to go take up a hobby or
something instead of just harping about your singlehood. So, why
don't you do it. Why? You want the whole world to sympathise with
you? Not gonna happen sister.
