Mmerc2000, having read all your post I just marvelled at the way
you handle your r/s so far. Professional is just underated -
Unbelieveably Impersonal.
I do not know what you mean and how you understand the term
"respecting people's privacy", but I can tell you this - you know
next to nothing. You need to really understand that a person may
sometimes feel uncomfortable sharing upfront not only with you but
others as well especially such pasts. So what is there to feel
uncomfortable about? We are just born imperfect and we do not
handle secrets well enough not to affect our thinking and conduct.
Remember we are not God, that is gracious and all understanding.
You may be a professional and a generous civic conscious individual
but in a relationship it is not like your work and charities. It
needs a thing beyond professionalism - personal touch.
Besides for her to share those events would really require time
and enough confidence in you. I am sure with your involvements in
those institutions of Single Mothers and Wayward Females, you would
have understood these complexities and relating problems they
faced. Sad, to say I found this lacking. Don't know your purpose of
involving yourself with such organizations??!! You might as well
shelve your involvement there and spend more time with other more
profitable pursuits. I cannot help draw a conclusion that you are 1
individual that cannot afford to loose and everything needs a equal
and opposite payback.
I hope that W is not on different wave and/or frequency that you
are on the path of a casual r/s. I think you will need to
communicate this as your r/s with her parents and your current
presence can be easily misunderstood by others especially W. So if
you are still not ready to take this r/s to the next level then I
think you will need to be responsible enough to put this into
proper perspective. Save hurting another individual.
