What happened with DVD boy sounded almost like an
accident.
That was not an accident.
When you tripped over your own shoelaces, that’s
an accident.
When you check into a hotel with a man, your
needs are not met.
Cheating in marriage is often due to a psychological
reason rather than a sexual urge.
Your decision to cheat is not
some overwhelming biological urge that took over you, but rather a
psychological urge to seek positive validation to your ego.
Your husband wounded your ego when you realized he’s
seeing someone else.
You cheated because of you felt
unappreciated.
I’m telling you all these so that hopefully you will
realize,
Stop rationalizing what has already happened.
Stop seeking that DVD boy.
He has nothing to offer to you except temporary
validation and solace.
It is easier to be in an emotional and suffering state
and to look for empathy rather than take ownership for the
situation you are in when your actions contributed to it.
What is the reason your husband
cheated?
Could it be because his needs are not met as
well?
The only permanent solace you can get is from solving
the problems you have in your marriage.
That problem has been staring right in front of your
face.
Don’t choose to ignore it.
A lot have been said about whether you should or should
not tell your husband.
I don’t think that is the main issue now.
A more important task at hand is to forgive
yourself.
Forgiving yourself is hardest thing to do but the only
way forward.
Your guilt will only drive your husband
further away.
