SOS ! I suspect my good friend is a gay

last SG · 2008-02-12T19:47:48+00:00

seriously, wad everyone has said makes sense. gays are normal ppl. they dun nd any help. y do some ppl think tt being gay is a mental problem? like caleb sai...

dbowie SG

Anyway here's a little background info about my friend .. we know each other since Primary 6 .. just now when I showed him some pictures of a girl ( Mind you it's not nude ) and he started sprouting some nonsense.. so I randomly asked him " Is our little XXXX gay here ? " ( He was not talking about anything gay in his earlier part ) To my surprise, he told me he had a relationship in Secondary 3 with a boy and broke up a month later because the boy still likes girls. Before signing off, he even asked me is " nap nap " gay ( As he was about to sleep ) ..

I don't mind having a gay friend but I think that this is just a temporary thing ( I hope so ), so I hope people out there with similar expriences can help out.

MooKu SG

Gays must have special treatment?

He's still your friend... treat him as normal?

dbowie SG

Now now, I don't mean giving him " special treatment " , what I meant is how can I help him over this issue. His behaviour seemed strange.

Zhen89 SG

let him be? he choose to be gay, then let him be gay

EarlNeo SG

What hep does he need? Did he ask u for help? If not, i think the best thing that u as a friend can do for him is just being ur normal self and treat him like any other ones. Sometime, being indifferent to something and not doing anything actually do wonder.

dbowie SG

Thanks for the advise above. I will try my best to help him in any way if I can.

no-no SG

what do you think he needs help in?

why do you want to help him?

what do you want to help him achieve/change/etc...?

motoway SG

er. so wad if he's gay?

Cool-gal SG

seriously, i think its harder for a gay to 'convert' straight while its easier for a gal to do so..

i dun think he wants ur help ba, just maybe to treat him as usual.

gay...

motoway SG

Er is it like a guys ego thing that a close fren cannot be gay?

Coz my brother used to haf this collegue that is gay and my brother claims that he find it wierd to speak to him..

I dunoe coz i haf sum lesbian frens and i'm pretty fine with them.. And by the way, sum gays are really nice people..

^tamago^ SG

You'll get used to it, though you might want to tell him that you're never interested in guys.

BangHong SG

treat him as normal, i have gay friends too. You dont fear you kenna or what... they are actually better people with their char then normal guys

xavier1979 SG

They are still human like you and I. Respect him as a friend.

no-no SG

dunno about you and your friend and dunno what kind of person your friend is like.
but i'd probably say something like that. just as a joke

angel7030 SG

Are u a gay urself?

Midlusionz SG

Seriously speaking like wat others said.. They are humans. Some of them really damn funny .. Nice ppl to hang out with but well not the twisted way tho

w.eikaas SG

nothing wrong with having the same gender fancing the same gender. why treat him different? do u think he needs help? what's wrong? nothing wrong what!

maskedangel SG

i have a gay friend to.
and he is still my very good friend.

Its nothing different. juz the mentality. . .

cheers to u, hope it doesnt affect u so much

Daisuke-kun SG

i dun care as long as he doesnt have interest in me

Zarks SG

Shower him some love la.. aiyo..