My story revealed (long story)

last SG · 2008-02-05T14:00:37+00:00

男人不坏，女人不爱there are always obstacles in liveresolve and overcome it

BangHong SG

Whatever happen had happened.....

I ask you 1question. Are you willingly to own up your mistake and turn over a new leaf now?

If really want to change over, dont listen people who discourage you. That is provided you really want to change.

Seek for pro to talk about, as BEATING a girl is a very wrong thing to do. After some understanding of the whole matter, you should meet up your girl and give it a final try. Even if your girl dont want you, ACCEPT IT. That is because its ALL YOUR FAULT, remember that well.

jojobeach SG

i know, i m willing to do things, i knw its very pain, everytime, i sleep 4 hrs and cry every day. i knw its pain. even counseling makes me cry. even with frens i make an effort to calm down n walk off when im hot headed and angry.

she said she cannot be with me but if fate permits she may be with me, and that if i really change and that she wanrts to be with me then she decides.

Seph,

Your violent confrontation is a sign of regression.

I don't know if you can see the bigger picture.

But, as we human's progress and modernize.

Behaviorial trait like yours, which you attribute to "impulse" is no longer acceptable.

Meaning, you have become 'outmoded", or "obsolete".

Through natural selection, females will shun men like you.

Unless you can start progressing like the rest of us. You will have a hard time finding a life long mate.

Or, you may find a mate, but she will be a weak link. And her weakness will be target for your impulse, a vicious cycle ensue.

Think about it.

At your age, you can still choose. It's all up to you.

BangHong SG

You have my moral support

sEphIrOth SG

what i want is to really change. it is very hard for me , talk is cheap, but im going through the course. what i really want is to change.

now, im hurt badly, so is she. i took her for granted but now is not the time to cry over spilt milk. now, i need to pick up the pieces and understand the cause and effect of my actions. only then will i realise the consequences that lies with the actions i take.

at the end of the day it lies up to her. whether or not she wants to just be frens or progress further, its up to her. i can only change and hope she accepts me back.

she told me she cannot give me another chance to be with her and that we be frens forever. however if fate wants us to be tgt we will be tgt. so i guess no point forcing, anything, also juz let it be.

time might heal my wounds.

sEphIrOth SG

Whatever happen had happened.....

I ask you 1question. Are you willingly to own up your mistake and turn over a new leaf now?

If really want to change over, dont listen people who discourage you. That is provided you really want to change.

i have already owned up to everyone. im trying to turn over a new leaf now. this behavior like jojo said, will make me lose out in the natural selection process.

StarPuppy SG

Good luck to you, u can ask for advice if u are ever stuck

xavier1979 SG

Start afresh again today. We're here if you need support.

mistyblue SG

don't you understand change? DO you understand change?

don't you understand that what you did is so serious that no sane woman will want to be around you thereafter, no matter how much you love her? I support her decision not to come back to you and get abused - verbally or physically. Besides, there are many guys out there many times better. Don't you think she deserve a chance at happiness with better people than yourself? Why do you keep holding her back for yourself? Make yourself feel better? She already want to move on. Let her go. She already said she will not give you another chance. Let her GO.

Do you know love is just an excuse? Its just that the person clings on to something and use it for whatever selfish purpose? Love from you is killing her.

Someone posted before that you want to change, you will change. Internally you want to change and never ever slide back. Do not use your "feeling" for her or whatever external excuse to change. Because that person/feeling will fade and you will blame that person for "making" you change. Internally, you have to feel it and want to make the change just for yourself.

Don't expect people to "accept" you just because you change. Don't expect people to forgive you just because you change. Don't expect people to give something back to you just because you change. Because simply, what you did is not acceptable in the first place. Just because you change to be more acceptable to society does not mean people have to accept you because you are the one who is out of line. Just because you are more in control of your temper does not make you any more special. There are a million men out there who are already in control of their temper. What makes you think people should accept and forgive you? What makes you think it will erase whatever you did?

Let me just tell you that being in a BGR is stressful. You already beat her up. Now being married will be 1000 times worse stress. I think you will never be able to control yourself and propably beat her up to a pulp and then cry over her grave.

My question is as always: Have you faced your internal demon? Have you fought your internal demon?

Do you know what is change? Its not crying. Its not hoping she will accept you. Its also not using your "love" to help you "control" yourself. Its not alot of things you have been talking about. Do you really want to change?

Time heal all wounds in everyone. You better hope time heal her wounds. And you better remember that what you did is never going to go away.

jojobeach SG

Hi Misty,

How's you and your husband doing ?

You're still with him correct ?

Just wondering, since he beat you up before, why you still stick with him ?

de_middle SG

move on & be a better person next time round

mistyblue SG

Hi Misty,

How's you and your husband doing ?

You're still with him correct ?

Just wondering, since he beat you up before, why you still stick with him ?

Still around with him. My brother beat me up.

My husband does verbal type. Commin in quarrels. This CNY, I am going through a round of disappointment.

Ferret SG

Still around with him. My brother beat me up.

My husband does verbal type. Commin in quarrels. This CNY, I am going through a round of disappointment.

-hugz-

Take care

fymk SG

Still around with him. My brother beat me up.

My husband does verbal type. Commin in quarrels. This CNY, I am going through a round of disappointment.

Why do you let your brother abuse you? Seriously , tell him that if he lays his fingers on you , you will call the police.

fymk SG

I hate physical abusers.

I will accept no amount of claims that just because you are hotheaded , you hit the girl. You made the choice to hit her. She dumped you - good for her . Go for anger management classes and sort out your problem.

Quit whinging about yourself and wondering why she doesn't want to be with you - the answer is obvious: you are a pathetic loser until you can sort yourself out.

sEphIrOth SG

don't you understand change? DO you understand change?

Do you know love is just an excuse? Its just that the person clings on to something and use it for whatever selfish purpose? Love from you is killing her.

My question is as always: Have you faced your internal demon? Have you fought your internal demon?

Time heal all wounds in everyone. You better hope time heal her wounds. And you better remember that what you did is never going to go away.

yes, i understand, changing will not result in anything, juz making me much normal. today, i m really glad i met her to pass her stuff i made for her. she was happy i was moving on and i told her that we dont know whether we cud be tgt. she said she doesnt know. maybe she hasnt completely forgiven me. however, i m glad we can still be happy frens and we will see what happens.

Xcert SG

We were a quarrelsome couple but we loved each other.

Long post but I only see one thing.

U, U and only U.

Xcert SG

no matter wat u do u cannot hit a girl….. i read that, and i fast forward and reply liao.

I can only say that with the posted context, I agree with you.

Not hitting a gal is not a die-die-cannot-break rule per se...for me...it all depends on the context at that time

sEphIrOth SG

its me because, now the problem lies with me, i have to do something abt the prob.

Scania L113 lover SG

its me because, now the problem lies with me, i have to do something abt the prob.

Don't tell me. Action speaks louder than words. Wink

sEphIrOth SG

dont worry, whatever i say now is useless, i have to work things out. yep, me n her r talking things out. im trying hard. i cant say im changed but im trying hard.

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