My story revealed (long story)

EarlNeo SG

I wonder why u even post this here. U know u wont get any sympathy vote here. So why bother? Making urself feel sh1tty dun help make thing any better. Neither will guilt. So grow up and learn from ur mistake and do the sensible responsible thing that u can do, leave her alone.

For urself, u need help. Something is very wrong with u.

BeRt^.^ SG

MRT-girlfriend-pusher spotted!!!

sEphIrOth SG

i admit it is my fault. but now whatever i say, i m looking to something else rather than brooding over it.

i understand that some people want me to leave her alone some people say hope, but i think, at the end of the day, its up to her, but i really am confused about what to do next.

monoslayer SG

this is part of the growing up process.. jus b strong n hopefully, time will heal everything..

i've been thru something like urs b4 n i've certainly moved on.. i found a better gal who i cherish very much n make sure i do not repeat my mistakes on her..

wat done cannot b undone.. look towards the future n dun dwell on the past..

if u really love her, u gotta let her go.. similarly, if she truly love u, she will come back to u..

at least, tats wat i believed..

good luck

mistyblue SG

Never hit a girl. I saw my sister get beaten up. I was beaten up. Its is the saddest thing that can happen. Once you hit someone. The person lose all respect and trust for you. The relationship will never be the same. There will always be an element of fear when people are around you. People tip toe around you fearing that they will make you angry, say the wrong thing and get beaten up for nothing. People will not tell you any truthful things or give you feedback to help you improve because you might beat them up. You only want to hear good things about yourself and so this is what false friends will tell you and you just rot further until you are un-salvagable.

You say you wanna change. You think its so easy? Talk is cheap. I have hear so many people say they want to change but never did anything. Then they claim they change loh. Many people change for the worse only. Most people are not even committed and do not have the will. Most people I know only tok c0ck.

You truly want to change? You sure?

YOU want to change?

Are you aware of the extent of hurt you have done?

Do you even know the level of hurt and disappointment you caused?

Are YOU sure you want to change?

Do you think you can change?

Are you sure you are ready?

ShrodingersCat SG

if you are sincere about changing

then u got to change for yourself

and not use her as a reason to change

only if you honestly look into yourself

and confront your own ugly side

than you can change from the inside

changing so that you can win her back is going to be just 'biao mian gong fu' shallow changes

Master -_- SG

so self centred...cannot get wat u want..u go hit people... wake up and smell the coffee please...

sEphIrOth SG

as much as i love her, i know what i had done was on impulse. now i know its on impulse, i have to curb such things, the counselor has taught me ways to curb violence and anger, but to only the extent i have to apply it too.

mistyblue SG

People say, you listen but it didn't change the internal process.

What's the use. Waste time only.

Not many people know what a real change is all about. I've seen people make superficial changes and think they changed. Real change process is very painful and hard. I am doubtful if all the counselling help if the person is not committed.

BangHong SG

Why did you hit a defenceless girl?

You sucks..

phil30k SG

Sep,

Sadly, the only thing I know that can "cure" you is if someone followed you and your gf around and restrain you immediately and beat you up whenever you started to become physically abusive with her. Someone around constantly that you feared enough that you wouldn't hurt her because you know you'd get badly hurt if you did.

If she had brothers or male friends who would do that for the both of you, your relationship may have a future.

Otherwise, you'll have to work out your issues first before attempting any relationships with any woman.

sEphIrOth SG

i know, i m willing to do things, i knw its very pain, everytime, i sleep 4 hrs and cry every day. i knw its pain. even counseling makes me cry. even with frens i make an effort to calm down n walk off when im hot headed and angry.

she said she cannot be with me but if fate permits she may be with me, and that if i really change and that she wanrts to be with me then she decides.

sEphIrOth SG

Sep,

If she had brothers or male friends who would do that for the both of you, your relationship may have a future.

Otherwise, you'll have to work out your issues first before attempting any relationships with any woman.

that is not a cure its a preventive measure. and how hard it is for me, i want a cure since it happened, and prevention from within myself. i will try my best tru counseling.

caleb_chiang SG

Please... you really love her? love her enough to threw punches at her? What's next? stabb her for leaving you?

motoway SG

yes, i shall leave her alone for now.but thinking that i shall change, i am going for counseling already. now, she says she cannot be together with me cuz of family and she dun wan to be hurt anymore. she has no feelings. what can i do?

Seriously, u can leave her alone for a while.

She dun wanna be with u, do respect her decision.

U failed her as a bf, so no point crying over spilt milk.

gigabyte14 SG

男人不坏，女人不爱

there are always obstacles in live

resolve and overcome it

gigabyte14 SG

leave her alone for a few weeks or so

and sms her, can we start over?

rlsh07 SG

she said she cannot be with me but if fate permits she may be with me, and that if i really change and that she wanrts to be with me then she decides.

i think u should go for ur anger management course though. hmm..

webbdavid SG

You already know your own problems, don't you?

You are very much self-absorbed. You claim to want to change for her, but what happens after that?

What happens after "you have changed for her", but what if she leaves you / anger you again?

You seem to think that by posting here you're trying to relieve yourself of the guilt.

No.

The guilt is yours to keep- we cannot tell you what course of action to take, and we don't need to. You already know it yourself. She already told you what she wants.

BUT ARE YOU LISTENING?

What she really wants from you is a change for the better. A positive change that tells her that you CAN take charge of your life and through that, the relationship of both of you. And in case you don't know... getting yourself drunk don't really count as a positivity.

You regret. But will you change to make sure it never happens again? Because if you are not confident of that, the next time it would happen again.

And when it happens again that is when everything WILL come to a definite end, if it isn't already so now.

New Creation SG

We were a quarrelsome couple but we loved each other.

2 fridays ago, we went clubbing and I got angry with her, so I walked off from the dance floor. She got upset and wanted to go home. So I pushed her to the wall and held her tightly. She cried and wanted to break up with me. Usually, she says she wants to break up. Now, my friends talked to her.

She told them she was fustrated and wanted things to work out, ever since, we had been together. Till last friday.

Last friday, we were talking about making a future in us. Then when we settled it in a peaceful manner giving me a chance to change, smarty pants decided to confess to her that 1 month before I knew her, I had a fling. She got angry, asking me why did I not tell her during our relationship, only now after 5 months? And she cannot accepts that I done it and it is a fling. She said I could not trust her in the past, now she cannot stand my infidelity. She said she wants a break up due to this and that I cheated on her.

In my mind I was thinking, I had cheated on her? It is my fault that I had done it and I did not know she was my future partner. It is not really my fault even though she may think I have loose morals, it happened once, and before our relationship. I promised her not to ever do it and be honest, she did not want to listen. She insisted that I cheated on her and she wanted a breakup.

Its WRONG to BEAT UP A woman regardless of whatever reasons you have. The thing is you confess how much you want to change. But trust me, what is already inherent in you ( be it a +ve or -ve trait), it will only grow stronger and stronger after marriage. So if you have this tendency to lose your cool, and beat up a woman, then this tendency will only aggravate after marriage.

I suggest, you go for anger management course 1st and seriously urge you not to engage in another relationship until the beast in you is gone. Man you got to respect woman you know.

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