thickskin23 SG I am 24 this year in my final year of studies, Today while i am having dinner with my gf of 6 years. She mention that she is scare of staying in the house alone with her dad as she mention that her dad watch porno in the living room and will sometime look at her in a lewd manner. When i heard this, i was stunned as i heard that her dad is quite sexual active but i never realised its up to this extent and after that my gf just keep questioning me when am i going to register a flat together with her. I mean i have consider marrying her and of coz buying a flat but right now i am in my final year and seriously i dun have a career except some part time job. I try to explain to her that she can move in to my house's guest room but she is not on good terms with my mom. I even assure that i will accompany her outside whenever she is alone with her dad but i knew that will not be enough.
VagueHart SG How much is your pay? Can you support rent for her? Rent a room or something, you all stay in it, maybe she can help pay it too! Liddat you all can be close tgt oso.. All the best..
Cool-gal SG hey, this is dangerous. temptation and lust make ple go crazy. i think u shd try to be by her side as much as possible. aiyo, why the father like tat??
ghast. SG woah, her dad? safer than sorry. she ask for help because she is really scared lei, a girl asking for a guy to register a flat, makes her sound so helpless and dependable on others. for her to say something like that not easy. probably shows how serious the condition is.
Jezmeister SG Ever thought of castrating her father? No? Ah well... all I'll say is methinks if you're really considering marrying her she has to be the most important thing in the world to you... are you more concerned about her wellbeing or your studies? I'm sure there'll be a way to sort it out such that you can still get the work done it'll just require perhaps a bit of extra effort and work on your part as well as hers. If it's a gamble between a chance of getting a lesser grade or a chance of her getting hurt which are you more willing to chance? No right or wrong answer just something to think about
extrinsic SG rent a room ba. simple and hassle free for current stage. u can move in also, if ur parent allows. new flat nowadays not very affordable le (tks to our millions dollars govt ), especially if u r still a student.
honeymouse SG I would suggest she rents a place somewhere else. Marriage is a life long commitment; unless you're absolutely ready for it, it's not a good idea to be forced into marriage by this kind of circumstance. Good luck and take care!
angel7030 SG Are u marrying his Dad? or is she marrying your mom? no rite. So, if you love each other, care so much about yr own folks for what, I mean u can respect them, but also they must respect you and your gf. U r just in your infant stage of becoming a family man without even a stable career yet, you should worry and take care of yourself and gf more and stop worry about the hell these old folks are doing, if they dun help u, it ok, but certainly they cannot be a problem to you. Be a man ya.
eagle SG Wear like this at home: Anyway, just joking... Renting a place would be good, but it doesn't seem like a good long term solution. Even staying at your house is not a long-term solution. Another way is to have her endure a bit while you complete your studies, or you could both go and apply for a flat first. This application could make her feel a bit better and give her some hope... The process of application could take quite long, and it would most likely be after your graduation. However, it would be good to calculate your finances, ie, your expected salary, her expected salary, and the expected monthly expenditure to see if you can afford it.
january SG home protection order. go and ask her to get one. go to police station to ask for advice. serious i am not joking. This kind of thing singapore police knows the best what to do, not we forumers. Some more, make full use of singaporean citizenship and use the tax payer money.
