Originally posted by Yunhaier:
You lead a very intense relationship because you
are unable to tame your emotions and yet allow it to consume you
absolutely. Your failure to evolve has little to do with willpower;
possessiveness can only be dissolve through wisdom and higher
enlightenment. And ironically, pain exalts possessiveness.
Therefore without the presence of wisdom, it's often reiterated
cosmic lessons.
No amount of induced pressure can dispel this emotional juggernaut
- you will only heighten your frustration and deepen the intensity
of your struggle. There are many possibilities as of how did you
acquire this poison in life, but regardless of circumstances, one
thing remains common: possessive is almost like an emotional Trojan
residing inside of you, perpetually seeking to introduce
'communism' with every relationship you encounter, as you see your
partner as a form of commodity/possession, subconsciously working
to deprive of your relationship of maturity, space and growth (it's
worst if you are heavily bogged down by several fixed aspects in
your natal chart).
The truth is that you will eventually ravage your own relationship
with your bare hands as your emotional affliction take step to
dominate - akin to demonic possession. You find yourself usurping
the crown of power and tilt the equilibrium towards you in full
swing, albeit the division of power is originally split equally
between the couple. 
***
Allow me to banish some myth in which you would
probably see yourself in:
I) "I am possessiveness because I
am afraid of losing someone I love. And it's only right because
it's somebody I love.'
The truth is that you indulge yourself in fear - so much fear that
the essence of love is hardly even present. The word 'Love' is very
much desecrated by the notion of fear, like a malicious spirit
lurking behind a corrupted idol. If I could reframe the context, it
will look like this:
[b]"I am possessiveness because I am fearful. And it's only right
because I fear.'
And I tell you because of ONE negativity, your entire life actually
work to compromise and bends, sometimes illogically and breaking
structures, outwardly to support this fear.
Let me illustrate a linear example that comes back in one
circle:
> Because you fear, you are possessive.
> Because you are possessive, you exert militaristic
control.
> Because you militaristic control, you rob space & growth
of your love.
> Because you rob space & growth of your love, the
foundation of your relationship is feeble.
> Because your foundation of your relationship is feeble, your
relationship does not have the natural mechanism to fend off
crisis.
> Because your relationship is unable to fend off crisis, it
perishes or decimate greatly.
> Because your relationship perishes or decimate, it triggers
more fear.
> And the cycle repeats.
In reality, the above relationship is much more complex - the
connection is usually more radical, affecting all aspects of your
life.
Just because of ONE negative condition in life - Fear.
***
II) 'Being possessive is
natural'
That's completely bull - Possessiveness is an affliction that
disguised itself behind many 'noble' intention/s. The noble
intention is but a facade.
***
In my years of doing relationship analysis, I can
tell you that people suffering from possessiveness never truly
shake away from this. Most people live with this affliction till
they expire from earth and thus, they will never experience the
true happiness of love - forever chain up in primary dimension of
love... never promoting.
There's only three ways to eliminate this Scorpio-classic: I will
tell you the third pointer
Achieve human
revolution You first learn to discard your old self and learn to
accept growth in love - not deny them. You learn to
confront your fear and not having to succumb to it by having to
compromise your circumstance to patch this negativity. Be religious
and spiritual; pray with conviction to the higher entity you
believe in or communicate to your inner self in sincere dialogue to
evolve and the strength to remove this affliction that prevents you
from attaining true happiness.
Cheers[/b]
Yes, I do know where possessiveness exist, it isn't
love...
Regading human revolution, what you wrote it may all just seem
'easy to say, but hard to do', but in the end, I will still have to
do it. Can't possibly lead my life this way anymore.
I am already in a religion, but not so much of passion and
conviction as of yet. Perhaps it's time to try. I really need a
whole lot of determination...
Sigh, I just find it really confusing. I am one who doesn't revolve
my whole world around him, and it's not that i lack
self-confidence, or friends, but still insecurity/possessiveness
bites into me somehow.
