Few months ago, I've post on AA about the problem with my
current gf now. This is the thread
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=282195
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Now, after knowing each other for few months, and she came to
singapore and spent 10 days with me. I can sense that she is really
serious about this relationship and I wont want to it be ended up.
A few example like, after she went back to the country to continue
her study, she sent me stuff which is essential for me. Of course I
told her not to but she insist.
We were really happy even though she was oversea and I'm here. She
even agreed to come to singapore to live with me after getting her
degree. Things were going really well except that her ex keep
calling her. Well, she was being honest and told me that her ex
called and she didnt reply or anything. She also wanted to change
her number after her subscription end. Now the problem start...
whenever her ex called, we will be engaging into a conversation
about him... and i really mind! Alright, I may not be the super
nice and open-hearted gentleman but I was able to accept her even
though she had an abortion before.
But even so, what the f* that her ex keep calling her? Ok, i know..
he wanted to find her for sex! How I know it? I asked my gf to be
frank with me, and she really did.. guess what? after her ex broke
up with her for another girl, sometimes he still call her up for
sex and she agreed!! OMG!!! I was really sad when she told me all
these.. and what's the worst? They were having unprotected sex!!!!
for fu*k sake!!! She even told me she did that 2 times!! I really
duno what to say, how can a girl be like that?? She is really a
nice girl.. i can feel it.. She told me she was really stupid and
ignorancem she really regretted it and even wont blame me if i
wanted a break up after hearing this. However, in my heart, im
angry and sad at the same time. If i saw that guy, I wanted to kill
him.. My words were really harsh when talking to her after knowing
the truth, i told her this, 'that guy cause you so much pain, cause
you to have abortion, and after the break, you still find him for
sex?? an unprotected one?? what are you thinking?? Oh, so you got
an abortion once, you think it's ok for the next abortion??" I said
that in front of her face in webcam. She cried and said no... She
told me that the reason why she had abortion was because she dunno
anything in the first place, she had kept her virginity till 22
year old and gave it to that f*cker! And nobody had teach her about
sex education... no even her parents.. (Her parent was country-side
folk and duno much about this things too) In her school last time,
they didnt teach as well... and I'm the one who tell her what's
right and what's wrong, what can do and what cannot do. She told me
that that's the past and she really devoted to me. since then, she
really listen to what i say. She is not the type who go clubbing,
drinking, smoking and such.
I really very sad after hearing her past.. even a normal girl who
have the sense of diginty wont allow herself to be like that. But
strangely, I know she suffered alot in the past, she is really a
nice girl and it's the guy lost if he dont treasure her. In my
heart, it's like thousand needle poking it... very painful..
Somemore, she used some of her saving and will be coming to
singapore again before christmas, as she wanted to spend christmas
with me. It's silly that she went to book the flight without
telling me first because it is really waste of money... the money
she would use to pay her school fees and give her family. You must
know what taking flight during these time (Special occasion) cost a
boom.. I was touched though...
Now the thing is... Im trying very hard to forgive her stupid
past... and it's all started because of the stupid ex keep calling
her. I know she would reject the call and she will definitely tell
me that he called. But everytime she told me, my mind will be
thinking alot... The thing is i really loved her.. if not, I would
break up with her after she told me she had abortion and
such..
I had already told her to change her number ASAP, and she will do
it immediately after her subscription is over.. which is half a
year time... Tell me fellow forumers... am I right to choose her?
If she had met me in the first place, we will be really happy
together... we are like so close and yet so far..
