Ok thnx, I believe what you said is how I feel. Ok, the thing
is.. as you know we met online, when our first chatting, (We dont
know each other well, havent got into relationship yet).there were
times where she received call from her ex and she angrily told him
off in front of me. That is the problem I faced on my previous
entry here
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=282195
.
While some say wait for her to come sg which is one month ago, we
really into this relationship and indeed she didnt pick up any call
from her ex. But her ex keep calling her though. And everytime when
her ex called, she will told me as for being honest.
She didnt have sex while in a relationship with me. I did trust her
for that and just the thing she do which she think is right let me
feel insecure. She really comfirmed that she got no feeling for him
anymore and made her more annoyed that he keep calling. Even though
I'm happy with her in this relationship but... her ignorance in
life scare me alot...
I know what you mean... im just saying the action that she do to
show her devotion and wanting to make a commitment with a little
engagment ceremony. Like i said, im not touched by her buying
expensive stuff for me so that it gives her the right to sleep
around. Im touched by her for doing things that even though she
know it's silly but that's how she feel for me.
P.s I say it's not cheap, dosent mean it's expensive... it's just
affordable price.
What gives is not about the value, it's about the feeling she put
into it. Cause from what i see, as i said eariler, she is doing
part time job while studying.. it's tough for a foreiger moreover a
girl. I know her spending is unnecessary. The impression she gave
is like even though i gave her a rock, she will treasure it that
kind of thing.. you know?
And you're right, although i believe in her, i dunno why am i
writing this for advise... I know human have problem.. even all my
friends have love problem... I just want to hear the advise which i
believe some of the people here might be facing love problem and
the experience they got which they overcome.
Ok i wouldnt say you are wrong.. maybe im restictive, narrow and
naive. But what i do and whatever i tell her is to protect her and
prevent her from having any mishap... which break my heart more.
Because with her over there, I cant do anything.. when anything
happen, i cant be by her side in the shortest time, the only thing
i believe i could do it to tell her how i feel. And i believe
there's this phrase that says 'preventation is better than cure' do
you agree?
Her mind is conservative to some extend... she believe that
bastard which he told her that is the right thing to do. She stayed
in japan for 3 years now and she had that relationship with that
bastard after 2 years.
I know i will have more pain... if not i wont be typing all these
to seek for advise.
Ironically, I had asked her this before.. that have the guy used
a gun to force her? No... that's what she replied. I know i dont
need to know the detail.. but after all that, it's still the fact
that she went over whenever he called. After that she told me she
regretted and she feel that she is dirty... and apologised to me...
but what the point of apologising now if she know had thought
before. Such a simple thought like 'I know i wont be together with
this man, how would my future man that i love sees me if i do this
thing?' Simple right? in short, she just didnt think of the
consequence...
