Building a successful
marriage
Success in marriage is based on compatibility rather than just
finding the right partner. Both partners must try to be the right
person by acting out of mutual respect, love and concern for each
other. Love is an inner feeling and af fulfillment arising from the
mutual healthy growth with and for the other person. In a
successful marriage, a partner must not always try to get things
his or her own way. This brings to mind a humorous saying - " Man
has his will but woman has her way ". There is only one path to be
trodden by both; it may be uneven, bumpy and sometimes difficult,
but it is always a "mutual path".
A happy marriage is not one in which exist with eyes closed. We see
faults as well as virtues and we should accept the fact that no one
is perfect. A husband and wife must learn to share the happiness
and pain in their daily lives. Mutual understanding is the secret
formula of a happy marriage. Marriage is a blessing but
unfortunately, many people treat it otherwise due to lack of
correct communication and understanding.
Most martial troubles which arise are normally due to an
unwillingness of one partner to compromise and be patient with the
other. The golden rule to avoid a minor misunderstanding from being
blown out of proportion si to be patient, tolerant, and be
understanding. Human beings are emotional and get into angry
arguments easily. Husbands and wives should do their utmost that
both are not angry at the same time. This is the golden rule for a
happy marriage life. If not parties are not angry at the same time,
problems can be easily resolved by adopting the noble spirit of
patience, tolerance and understanding.
The husband should treat his wife with respect, understanding and
consideration and not as a servant nor as a doll in his hands.
Although he may be the bread winner of the family, it is also his
duty to help his wife with the household work whenever he is free.
The wife, on the other hand, should not always nag or grumble at
her husband over trival matters. If he really has certain
shortcomings, she should try to talk with him and point out his
mistakes. A spouse should try to be tolerate and handle problems
without bothering the partner, including those related to his or
her career.
Being
diplomatic
There is a story of a hot tempered woman who would always scold her
husband for minor mistakes by saying, " You are a stupid idiot."
The husband was very tolerant and kept quiet when he was scolded.
However, one day, when the wife shouted " You are a stupid idiot.",
the husband said: " i think you are right. If i am not a stupid
idiot, do you think i would ever married a woman like you?" From
that day onwards she never utter such words.
