PeriodMan SG yup she told me she would give it up. she rejected her frens few times alrd. she rejects going out with her frens. she tells me when guys ask to dance with her in the past but she rejected. i do trust her but i dont wan to dissapoint her. thanks for the ans here.
BrUtUs SG y not u also go? u cant stop her frm gng la.. once she sian liao then she will stop... u get angry then she sure will secretly go... better review ur r/s...
Uncertain SG I ever like a girl who loves to go pub a lot. Almost every week will go one. But i still like her though i dun like girl who pubs. Y? Cos i love her so i will give her space. Ultimately, it is up to ur trust in her. If u don't trust her or u catch her eating up her promise, then i think u should leave the r/s. Hopefully, this is not the case. Remember TRUST is important in a r/s.
PeriodMan SG i do trust her, i do not trust the environment. she is very faithful but what if someone does something against her will,whether intoxicated or with malicious intent? things are unexpectable. sometimes i worry for her too much, but she already agreed not to go, what if she is influenced by her frens? i jus fear for her safety, and to be honest, dont wanna wear the green hat too.
k2406 SG Dude. If she really wants to go, she might agree to stop going because she loves you now. But as time passes, she might start to feel slightly resentful that she has to give up something she really likes. It'll result in negative undercurrents in your relationship. Personally, I see your POV and would not like my gf to go clubbing. And just happens that the girls I've liked including my current gf all are not the clubbing kind...
Yunhaier SG And when I rearrange your words; it simply means you don't trust her. It's so passe, blatant and overused - the notion of 'safety' as a facade for insecurity. If you truly care about her safety, you will go along and not insisting on 'guiding' her from afar. *** If your woman wants to cheat; she can even cheat you even if she only goes to the library. It's not the environment - it's always the person. Why blame the variable if the constant is screwed in the first place? Cheers
CannyOng SG It is not abt trust anot. It is abt the places she go... If u let yr gf go library and she kena rape. I bet u will not blame her. If u let her go clubbing and she kena rape. U might be angry but right in yr heart,U also have some percentage of thinking like ' See! Told u liao don't go that kind of complicated places,now kena rape liao...' Pub and those dicso area are complicated. U don't know how many wolf are inside waiting for their prey. I have a few NS friend who specialise go pub to raba gals when dancing. Some gal drunk liao,immediately a wolf pack went up and hands everywhere.. Last timeI go and around 2am,these kind of scenes are common. Worst is they drug yr gal. Bring her to some hotel and that's it......
PeriodMan SG Originally posted by Yunhaier: And when I rearrange your words; it simply means you don't trust her. It's so passe, blatant and overused - [b]the notion of 'safety' as a facade for insecurity. If you truly care about her safety, you will go along and not insisting on 'guiding' her from afar. *** If your woman wants to cheat; she can even cheat you even if she only goes to the library. It's not the environment - it's always the person. Why blame the variable if the constant is screwed in the first place? Cheers[/b]somehow i mentioned i cannot go due to my personal reasons. the environment plays a part. whats the chances of being hit upon by older men when ur in orchard road and ur in geylang? geylang would definitely be higher,way much higher. am i right to say that?
jojobeach SG PeriodMan, You're a control freak. That's what you are. You knew she was a clubber before you went into this relationship. Do you really think you now have the power to change her lifestyle? If she hasn't outgrow this part of her life. You will only push her away more if you keep up with this kind of insecurity and possessiveness. You are not her father, so stop behaving like one. She has a brain, she survived so long without you before. You can only tell her you are not happy with her clubbing. It is up to her to decide if you are worth the change of lifestyle. Why do you refuse to go with her ? And yet, you whine and moan about it, claiming you want to protect her ? What rubbish. This relationship will not last. I'll bet on it.
jojobeach SG You want to keep her locked up in a cage ? Men are everywhere. Orchard road or geylang, it doesn't matter. If she is a decent girl, men old or young will hit on her in MRT, Shopping centers, hawker centers, anywhere she can be approached. It is up to her to discern who she wants. And she chose you, so stop being a diak head and ruin your relationship.
Isis SG Yeh diakhead.. u think u OWN the girl ? she isn't a commodity in the first place. She is ur girlfriend and she deserves a life. What will u feel if ur gf do the same thing to u.. Give her the freedom that she deserves. Make her happy, not satisfying ur own insecurity, selfish diakhead.
jojobeach SG And stop telling her you don't want her to go because it is for her own safety. If your girl is not a retard, she will KNOW it's bull shiate you are spouting. Tell her the truth, that you are jealous when men looks at her, that you are afraid other men will steal her away from you, that you have a huge inferiority complex.
Nikar2 SG if you catch your gf in club playing with guys, buy saturated sulphuric acid in bottle, walk into the pub and throw the bottles on those guys (not the girl). that way, you're saving your gf and cleaning up society. sizzle......sizzle.......
yiha093 SG sosososososossososossosososoooo to sum it all up, by all of ur guys post Let ur Gf go,but in moderation OR let her go clubbing, just help her from afar OR break.
