thinking too much or givng in too much in a rs?

last SG · 2007-09-24T15:55:56+00:00

define 'too much' love is something intangible.. u can't see it, not easy to feel it also. i ever tot somebody gave me too much.. and so i gave him as much...

de_middle SG

if u truly love, u wont be thinking this way Very Happy

Zarks SG

U give one thing then you wait them to give you something.

then you know you wont give much Laughing

Scientifically proven !

<Precious> SG

Never give in too much nor do too many things for the girl or she'll take you for granted...... unfortunately, there's no hard-and-fast rule what is "too much" - you just gotta assess the whole situation........ Wink

rainee SG

You give because you want to...

I think us human beings have this thing about protecting ourselves. There will come a time when we start to question whether we are doing too much, and whether we should stop. The answer to this is, do you think it is worth it if you continue?

For example, when you are gambling, you have lost over 1000 bucks, and you will automatically stop and think, have I spent too much on this? Should I spend more? You will spend more if you think the outcome is worth it, when you think that you will be able to recoup your losses in the end. But if you think you are not able to recoup your losses, then you will stop there.

So do you think it is worth it to keep giving in to her? Or do you think this rs will only get worse in time? Try talking to her, let her know how you are feeling. Tell her that you feel that it is very stressful to be the one giving in all the time. See what's her response. It will help you to know whether this rs will change for the better or just continue to get worse.

Good luck Wink

Darkness_hacker99 SG

Though I don't really know what StarPuppy is giving or thinking too much. Based on how I feel, I feel that what he meant by giving too much is actually 'love'.

Showing care and concern is definitely not akin to gambling. This cannot be use as an example because I feel that Love is not about gamble and hoping for returns, but giving unconditioned love as the main point.

rainee SG

The instinct to protect ourselves is still there. Giving in too much when the other party never cherishes it is as good as not loving ourselves.

And in order to love someone else, there must be self-love first Wink

theSquelch SG

pple who hv no real experience in rships like to talk abt unconditional love
it is an idealistic fantasy
we want to love n be loved in rtn

give as much as u want to give bcos there is pleasure in giving
the key here is respect - ur girl must alwys respect u
as a man, as her bf, as a person
a woman who does not respect her man will find him less n less attractive
dont give to a pt where she thinks u hv no backbone, no opinion n cant be bothered abt ur feelings anymore
b sure u give to someone who appreciates wad u do

NekoRin SG

Neutral
We as guys don't need to know. Normally when you come to this and ask yourself this question. It signals that your r/s is having some problems.

Don't sugar-coat your mindset of 'being in a relationship'. Every r/s have it's ups and downs, not all are sweet all the way. And most problems stem from the lack of effective communication and a good way for both parties to reach a compromise should hiccups happen along the way.

Lastly compromise != giving in Very Happy

Guardx SG

You must know what you have.

1) If you are handsome, you need not care about the gal becos you got many others.

2) If you are rich, you need not care about the gal becos you got many others.

3) If you are a sweet talker, you need not care about the gal becos you got many others.

The problem now lies if you do not have the above.

You do not have any positive points all you got is negative points.

Try to increase you positive points.

No money earn money lor.

Not a sweet talker learn to be one.

If not handsome learn to sing well..

Try to be more caring and understanding thats the only key difference better you and other guys.

To have a much better say in the relationship the only way is to train yourself to live without the person and make the person listern to you every words , once you have mastered this the other half will have no holds on you and you can finally control the relationship.

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