Originally posted by sggirl07:
Thank you girl for assuring me that.
Yes, you are right. he confused me with all those rubbish. That he
is innocent, he didnt mean to lie to me that he is married, he
didnt mean to lie to me that he has no kids (cos i asked very
straightforwarly "are you married" he said no, and i went on asking
"do you have kids" he said no again). And he said those things (he
insisted they are not lies) cos he was a victim of circumstances,
cos he spoke too fast! But hey, has he considered i am his victim?
that he really [b]HAD LIED to me?
He is perpetually evasive. And when cornered, he lied. i remember
how i cornered him when we were in a relationship. when i begin to
suspect some thing was wrong, i asked him again "are you married,
he tried to evade, but no, i wont take that for an answer, he said,
no, he is not married.
He perpetually treating me in such ways i deem unreasonable,
forever evasive, and yes, i went through the paradigm shift. i
began to think that i was wrong, maybe. i begin to question myself.
This morning, i woke up, and after reading your reply, i begin to
understand, perhaps that is why so many gfs or wives help their bfs
or husbands do ridiculous things, even like killing or
raping.
Yes, he is forever depending on others for his own emotional
stability and ego. he told me that pretty girl is so innoncent that
she innoncently stroke his face and thigh, doesnt know that such
acts are not platonic. she is always trying to hold his hands,
doesnt know that such acts are not platonic. OH com'on, she works
in entertainment line. she, only 21 years ol, had a 48 years old
japanese bf before. does he think that she is so innocent? has no
knowledge of seduction? or is he so innocent? he is not borned
yesterday. he is in his 30s! or is he quietly stroking his own ego?
yes, he depends on her, me and other girls for his own emotional
stability and ego. And if that makes someone a loser, he then will
be one.
Is he selffish? this is a qn i keep asking myself.
you made several very valid points. Thank you for your assurance,
for telling me this is too much, for assuring me that he is
disrespecting me and treating me as more inferior than him, for i
am no longer able to tell black from white anymore.[/b]
he smsed me that he is going to hong kong this weekend and may
not come back forever.
