You know ...
It's clearly evident that TS is straying ... let's put things into
perspective:
You've been with this guy ("A") for 5 years ... you're working now,
and you don't see him as often ... instead, you spend more time
with this other guy ("B") by virtue of work
Ooh, B's nice, what a breath of fresh air ... you're excited, you
feel like a giggling girl again because everyone likes to be part
of the chase.
You fail to see that your feelings are brought about only by the
sheer convenience your work brings.
You start convincing yourself .. mmm .. look at B, he's always so
nice .. A .. I've been with A for 5 years and yet he doesn't treat
me as well ...
Again, you fail to see that B's interest in you is the only reason
he is nice; who is to say that he will remain that way after he's
gotten through your pants? Heaps of my guy friends (who mind you
are very eligible bachelors) seem to have this f**k and run policy.
It's all about the chase.
A on the other hand, sure he's not as nice now ... but don't you
ever recall how A used to treat you? The way he made you feel
precious and wanted ... the reason why you got together with A in
the first place? Afterall A has been pretty stable hasn't he ...
sticking with you ... a gf with wandering eyes/heart.
I mean it sounds like, and I agree with alot of the other forumers
here that A sounds like a real MCP ... but are you telling me that
during this 5 years, he has never ever shown you concern? Bullshit
I say. If that is the case, you would have left him ages ago. Every
guy has his pride ... come on, in this generation, there are guys
who are like girls, and girls who are like guys ... at least yours
is clearly by his sheer outward display of hormones,
STRAIGHT.
Your relationship with A needs invigoration, not disposal; and A
could probably use some therapy imo.
Quite frankly, on one hand, I'd really like to see you lose A over
a potential b*st*rd like B (come on, the fact he's hitting on you
knowing you got A just shows the kind of man he is). However, on
the other, I can't help but see that you're so sentimentally
attached to A - there's still hope for you.
Feelings don't linger without a reason; and whatever reason it is
behind them, is reason enough for me to tell you to work things out
with A.
Writing him a note is the best way to do it, because guys ... oh
boy ... especially guys with too much pride ... words never come
out right, but inside they hurt when they say it ... Having your bf
reply you in kind, means that what he writes, he thinks, and he's
not just saying it without processing it.
Good luck.
