This is an exchange of needs - he wants intimacy
and you want companionship.
You deny one aspect of this trade, the deal cannot run.
Be glad that you have seen his colours even before he transpire;
why bother to have the affection of someone whom never meant to be
true to you and himself in the first place?
I hope you have the sense to find someone who is both genuine
inside and out, not some clown donning jester's mask. Why bother to
have the latter's love and affection, where your suffering will
likely to intensify when you learn of his facade later on in a
relationship? 
Our love life is governed by the sort of mindset
we implement in our life: People with twisted mindset about love
always have screwed relationship - that equation hardly changes. We
attract the quality we exude, therefore attracting the wrong kind
of mate is often a quality found in ourselves upon close
examination.
Such gloomy automatic thoughts have no absolute benefit to your
love life; in fact, if you began to believe in your own propaganda,
you will always meet man like these. Unconsciously, your poor
outlook in love might just be the cause of your so called
'destiny/fate' in love.
Many people failed miserably in love because they failed to
understand that self love must come before love. These people
attempt to supersede the love they received from others to mollify
their emotional deformity and hatred for themselves. They somewhat
reckon that the source of happiness can only be bestowed from the
others' approval, love and recognition.
But as much as we love to be loved, if the core belief of our love
is aberrated, whatever love that was granted to us merely acts as a
screen to avoid facing our psychological and emotional imbalance,
resulted from the lack of self love.
And the moment when our love fleets, the mayhem triggers
instantaneously - we slipped into hysterical mode when we realised
that we have to face our ghastly unloving side once again, which
has always been blotted out momentarily by the superficial nature
of our relationship.
One can only hope to win in love if they have the wisdom to win
themselves.
Cheers
