Frustration

fairlady_xoxo SG

Well i'm currently with a job...but i'm thinking of moving out from there...

The people there are nice...like really nice....and we click really well...but i hope that i can leave without the feeling of attachment to the department...

As much as i try to not be so involved with the daily activities...i will unknowingly just help them all out...sigh...i wonder how people who are leaving the company handle such situations? Thanks...

AndrewPKYap SG

Why do you want to leave "without the feeling of attachment to the department"?

fairlady_xoxo SG

So that i can leave in peace? And start all over at the new company

AndrewPKYap SG

huh? If you feel attachment for the department, you cannot leave in peace because...

You feel you need to help those nice people to cope without you?

You feel guilty about making life difficult for them?

If that is the case, well, in life, you can NEVER have the cake and eat it.

What is/are the reason/s you want to leave? Is it valid?

<Precious> SG

Chey! Leave emloyment doesn't mean you have to terminate your relationship with your present colleagues mah..... can still keep in contact and get together wad...... Very Happy

fairlady_xoxo SG

I know la...but still...things will get quite uneasy also la...

Nah i'm not guilty...just that i feel the attachment...then to leave it suddenly...to me its ok...but i don't know to the others...but life still goes on....

MooKu SG

Wink

Or is it something else you're referring to?

fairlady_xoxo SG

Heh...oh ya...the guy in my company...hmmm nah i think its also gd for my future =) thinking long term...

DC+ SG

its like wen u die hor..bt cant go heaven cos got many things u wan to do on earth ma..

so ah..u wan go heaven or stay on earth n finish up first so can leave peacefully?

MooKu SG

How well does he know you? Will he really be affected as much as you think he will, by your departure?

fairlady_xoxo SG

I wanna go heaven...but i have to leave earth liao...even if i have worldly ties... all have to cut off...just that i feel its getting harder and harder day by day...

AndrewPKYap SG

so mysterious, how can we give good advice?

My advice to you is that you write down clearly what your feelings are and what your reasons are to leave... not really for our sake but for yours... to clarify in your own mind what your problem is/are...

fairlady_xoxo SG

Haha...not much also la...nah i think life goes on for him...he still has contract with the company...can't anyhow leave...i can leave you see...i'm not tied down...

MooKu SG

So what's causing the frustration? Laughing

fairlady_xoxo SG

Actually i know i have to go...but i dunno why i get such feelings pulling me to stay...thats the frustrating part

DC+ SG

i think hor..u cant bear to leave him n start afresh, not the company

fairlady_xoxo SG

The aunties i come to know of there...my colleagues in my department (alone) Laughing must emphasize

fairlady_xoxo SG

Haha...we never have an actual conversation face to face...how to like and can't bear to leave leh? Laughing

MooKu SG

People change jobs, get sacked, are transferred to other departments everyday.

This is not your first job right?

When you gotta leave, just leave.

Keep in touch with them.

DC+ SG

dont need to have actual conversation one...thinking bout him from time to time would do ma..

thats why wen guys meet girls for first time..meet short time only...then got 10 day gap or wat wat before next meeting.

in these 10days girl will think of the guy..her thoughts revolve around that guy... and she dreams and fantasizes bout this and that. In short, can say she hynoptises herself to like or love him ma Laughing