Misconceptions of Love

last SG · 2007-06-30T07:15:30+00:00

I feel sorry for the one whom you thought was the wrong person.

eagle SG

I was about to say love without relationship too

But I suddenly wondered why can't there be love without relationship, if we define relationship as bgr?

AndrewPKYap SG

How about this quote from a novel/movie, "Love Story": Love Means Never Having to Say you are Sorry

BTW this noel has a very interesting history/background.

The writer was a professor in literature and he analyzed all the Love Stories that were ever written and he came out with a formula.

Rich Guy
Poor Girl
Family disapproval
Together against all odds, at last
Then girl gets terminal illness....

I bet some of you just from reading the few lines above felt a lump in your throat...

The human brain... *sigh*

AndrewPKYap SG

How will that work? bgr - "boy girl relationship" without the relationship?

eagle SG

It sounds very drama-like.

But the most touching love stories are those of real life old couples, with one spouse having a terminal illness...

Or love in the sense of loving one's children... Taking care of them unconditionally even though they are incapable of doing anything else

eagle SG

To me, one-sided love is still love... It only becomes a relationship when your love is returned

AndrewPKYap SG

It was a big joke at that time... the book was by literary standards very poorly written and I believed very quickly written but it became a best seller and was made into a movie staring Ryan O Neal (the George Clooney/Brad Pitt of that time) and the actress was... let me google...

Love Story (1970) is a sentimental, romantic tearjerker film from director Arthur Hiller about a tragic couple. [Hiller had passed up the opportunity to work on The Godfather (1972) to make this film.] The melodramatic soap-opera, tremendously popular and a financial success (the top-earning film of the year) but panned by critics for its sappy content, was based upon Erich Segal's best-selling short novel of the same name. The film's tagline, "Love means never having to say you're sorry," appeared slightly differently in Segal's novelization: "Love means not ever having to say you're sorry."

The catchy, haunting, piano-plinking score won the Best Original Score Oscar (the film's sole award) for Francis Lai from its seven Academy Awards nominations: Best Picture, Best Actor (Ryan O'Neal), Best Supporting Actor (John Marley), Best Actress (Ali MacGraw), Best Director (Arthur Hiller), and Best Original Story and Screenplay (Erich Segal). Beau Bridges, Michael York, Michael Douglas, Jon Voight, Michael Sarrazin and Peter Fonda all turned down the part of Oliver - which ultimately went to Ryan O'Neal.

AndrewPKYap SG

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AndrewPKYap SG

hmmmm... Love can be a feeling even without the relationship?

BTW when I ask questions it is supposed to be read together with the title. Like:

"Love can be a feeling even without the relationship?" Is that a Misconception of Love?

tingal79 SG

Love is overrated most of the time.

When you are in love, and that someone is also in love with you, you think that love is great and that love isnt that tough. That isnt true. You only feel love is great because both of you are fortunate enough to meet and have each other.

As for others, there are many other things that are better than their love lives.

CannyOng SG

Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:
Love is a commitment.... how true/false?

Like, if the other person is unfaithful, will you still be committed to the relationship if you say that Love is a commitment?

I think the previous thread is abt being committed to the person u have a r/s with.

For example,u may met another new guy who may be yr colleague or new friend who is almost in any way better than yr present bf and have a liking of u. So are u going to follow yr feeling and choose a better one?

Of cos,if yr partner is unfaithful,just dump him. He breaks the commitment and promise. U are not responsible to tie to this type of person liao..... Very Happy

CannyOng SG

Originally posted by tingal79:
Love is overrated most of the time.

When you are in love, and that someone is also in love with you, you think that love is [b]great and that love isnt that tough. That isnt true. You only feel love is great because both of you are fortunate enough to meet and have each other.

As for others, there are many other things that are better than their love lives.[/b]

Just like the TS stated. Love need to be control and put yr sensibility into it. Know what is wrong and what is right. When to let go and and when to hang on. But r/s also need to be learn and is a process. If u master that,it will not be overrated. It will be wonderful and one of the joyous thing in world to able to find a life time partner that can share thru thick and thin.

AndrewPKYap SG

Love is easy if you find the right partner but is really tough, otherwise? Love is not everything in life and if fact there are many things much better then love? Examples?

AndrewPKYap SG

So love is conditional commitment? Love is commitment only if the other party is faithful? What else? Love is conditional commitment and only if the other party is.... (fill in the blank)

AndrewPKYap SG

For Love to be successful, you need... " to be in control"; "put yr sensibility into it Shocked (maybe it means be sensible, wise, intelligent); "Know what is wrong and what is right"; "Know When to let go and and when to hang on"; "is a learning process"; "Can be wonderful and one of the joyous thing";

Love is sharing through thick and thin?

Anyone care to elaborate?

rainee SG

Means you are with your partner through the happy times to share his happiness, but when your partner is down or going through tough times, you will be there to help him or her shoulder the burden too Smile

AndrewPKYap SG

Example? What if the bad times are caused by one of the partners and affected the whole family? Like because of one party gambling at the casino? Do you then continue to "be there to help him or her shoulder the burden too ?"

rainee SG

Will try to, but will of course help him to get rid of the gambling habit as well. I am not someone who can tolerate gamblers though, because my own dad is a compulsive gambler.

I will help someone who is going through tough time and is trying to help himself as well, not someone who is going through tough time but is not doing anything by himself to make the situation better, but just rely on me fully to do that...

Yunhaier SG

Misconception of love is largely due to an individual's life journey. A person growing up in a disruptive domestic environment is likely to learn about love much more differently from another coming from a loving family. And of course, when you factor in karmic reasoning - our growth and cosmic lessons will differ vastly, giving rise to different attitude and perception of what love is to them.

The notion of 'misconception' is not literal; in fact, it's more likely to be a 'pseudo-reality' having to live in their own experience and suffering from the consequence of what have been presented to them. They will classify it as their version of truth in love, accepting and feeding these grime maliciously into their mindset and in turn, behaving like what their thoughts believe in.

Love is never about destiny - it's about empowerment, realization, choice and learning.

Many times, it's not so much of how much someone suffered in love - it's about what you come out of it and surmount those challenges. Not everyone needs higher learning in love; you just need to know enough to make your relationship fulfilling. Idea

Cheers

AndrewPKYap SG

I am starting these topics because I think that many people live life "without thinking" but they do not agree that they live life without thinking... they insist that they live life in a very thoughtful manner...

*haiz* just because people engage in the thinking process, they assume that they are "thinking properly".

How shall I put this? Just because you are having sex, it does not mean that you are "making love".

Just because you are putting things into your mouth, it does not mean that you are eating nutritious food.

Just because you lie in bed and close your eyes, it does not mean that you are sleeping.

In order to think properly (it is more than this) you need to have the "correct" (facts, perspectives) information.

In order to have the correct information, someone need to give it to you.

What better way than to do it in an open discussion and everyone contributes to give the "correct" facts and opinions so that everyone can have the "correct" facts and perspective to engage in "proper thinking."

If you simply read and do not contribute, if there are any wrong perspectives or errors in your head, you will not know it.

When you contribute, you gain.... by having your thoughts clarified for you by fellow forumners.

Why are some people smarter? Wiser? happier?... the process is long and hard. You need to get rid of all the errors in your head. The way to do that is to engage in discussions....

lageihsif SG

but cant we live life without thinking?

but u dun insist that u are thats all.

wont we lead a happier life that way?

of course, leading a life without much thinking wont bring u a good life (monetary wise), but a simple life can also give a fulfilling life, no?

just my tots...

btw wad i meant by Love is war was that all is fair in love, u fight for it and dun blame others for taking away wads 'urs'

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