You are contradicting your own words. Earlier in my post I did
mention you couldn't be possibly in love with a man without really
knowing him personally and you reply you discover you 'love' him as
time went by you discover the softer side of him. How can you
possibly fell in love with someone when your contact with the
person was so short and limited? Above you said the contact was
sometimes 1-2 weeks to the extent of more than 2 months since both
of you so busy at work. So, pray tell me how can you know him well?
You don't love him. you thought you love him. You believe you love.
You are only in fancy with him. And further more you said,
How weird can it be when he was just treating you as a business
associate. Subconciously you knew very well there wouldn't be a
chance of him wanting you as a gf but conciously you were in denial
mode. Conciously you were still hoping there might be a glimmer of
hope. It's okay to hope but when a man rejected you so outrightly
and openly then no point even daydream of it. When a man said no
they really mean no. So don't even attempt to be exceptionally nice
to him for it would turn him even more off and thought of you
nothing more than a nuisance and a harrassment. Furthermore you
said you left him little gifts and encouraging notes. Why do that?
To you, you just want to care but to him he would probably think
you were still chasing him and he would take it negatively like you
were crowding his personal space. Unless you do that to the other
business associates I don't see you should do that for the time
being.
I mean, frankly if I don't like a guy I don't even want to receive
anything from him however insignificant that gift may be. Because
by receiving even an insignificant gift from him I might
inadvertently send out the wrong message to him like rekindling his
hope in chasing me, which I don't want that. I wouldn't want to
give him any possible reason to think otherwise.
You got what I mean? So, please move on. As I've said before when
the right time come for you to meet your other half no matter how
you want to avoid you wouldn't be able to do so for it is your
fate. Think no more of him. Concentrate on your work go out with
more friends even if they are females for you may never know
through them you might meet your 'zhen ming tianzhi'
