My ex girlfriend in peril

last SG · 2007-06-20T11:21:23+00:00

I guess you can say I feel really useless and unable to do anything for her(wu zhu). Although I really don’t like her anymore I still feel that she’s a good...

caleb_chiang SG

Just lend her a listening ear will do. Some people only need someone who would listen to their problems to reduce their stress.

You are in australia and not her bf anymore. So, all you need to do is show concern like you would to your best friends.

Ask her not to think too much. People come and go all the time.

Ask her to put up with the job untill her financial status stablized. She can keep a look out for other good offers but advise her not to switch during the period unless she is 100% sure that she would fit in the new job.

As for her relationship wise. Just lent a listening ear. Do not advise much or you might end up being blamed for asking her to endure or break.

CPTMiller SG

Msn or Yahoo msg also can talk

gigabyte14 SG

boy boy

find job easy ah? Laughing

gigabyte14 SG

not sincere enuff ma

if no fone

CheHyeon SG

More than that I already said she can’t afford a computer and she don’t really know how to use one as well.(kinda reflects on how some people are really doing badly in Singapore’s society)

xaih SG

i guess you really cant do anything other than listen to her problems. Neutral
and since she cant even afford a proper tv....then how come can make distant call!!it's even more ex if you sum up the calls made!? =.=

CheHyeon SG

Phonecards can help reduce overseas call price. The right one can allow you to call for about 4 hours for just 10 dollars. So i guess it's alright. Maybe I was exaggerating about the TV part. Come to think of it, I must have compared it to my household that can afford three plasma TV. Sorry about that...

ispyyy SG

Then, ask her to wait for u to come back from oversea lor...

MyPillowTalks SG

Originally posted by CheHyeon:
My ex girlfriend is having a really bad time that I really cannot imagine sia...

[b]She's having trouble with her boss at work.

Her grandmother passed away 3 months ago.

She quarrels incessantly with her current boyfriend.

Her family's been in financial instability for half a year.

To top it all up her father is in the last terminal stage of stomach cancer(adenocarcinoma) with a month left.

She calls me every other day (long distance to Australia) to tell me all about how she feels. I really REALLY pity her but I can't think of really good advice/condolences to tell her. I feel really bad everytime she calls me and pours her heart to me only to get the occasional "orh", " ok" and "sorry" etc...how sia... [/b]

Analysis of problem core:
boss, financial, and emotional

Solution:Advice her:

dun quarrel wid boss, so can mantain a good income

tell her that her grandma wants her to have a good life

tell her to spent more time with her dad

ask her to tell her boifren that she have problem and need quiet time for a while

What u can do:
Dun just orh

do sth... ask her to tell u all the problem, find a solution(S) and reply her ASAP

gigabyte14 SG

Originally posted by MyPillowTalks:

[b]Analysis of problem core:
boss, financial, and emotional

Solution:Advice her:

dun quarrel wid boss, so can mantain a good income

tell her that her grandma wants her to have a good life

tell her to spent more time with her dad

ask her to tell her boifren that she have problem and need quiet time for a while

What u can do:
Dun just orh

do sth... ask her to tell u all the problem, find a solution(S) and reply her ASAP[/b]

copy me 1 Mad

cockaholic SG

now she's just talking to you, its ok, just beware if she tries to ask for huge amount of money from you, women are the cunning ones, some things she say may not be as truthful as you think, but you did the right thing by listening to her Smile

MyPillowTalks SG

shhhh Laughing

AndrewPKYap SG

You are already a nice guy and all she needs is a listening ear from you... as long as you are listening... "orh", " ok" and "sorry" is good enough.

4getmenot SG

i think its more of both 1 & 2.. since u had relationship before with her, you could be the next closest one she can confide with, you're just a temporary shoulder for her, until she finds someone else who's within proximity to her for her to really put her shoulders on (shes in australia, you in ???.., hopefully she meet someone whos nearby her who can really comfort her, too bad for her father though.. boy i can imagine the stress she's going through..

CheHyeon SG

Oh well what can I say… Life really blows sometimes… _l7o…

kiss_my (_i_) SG

i knw liao

browniebaobao SG

i think she will be damned touched if u fly over and give her a hug.

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