This is the things that always bother all Singaporean couples..
GUy think must provide a good life then can married gal.
But first of all,what yr gal
wants?
HOw do u define hardship in yr
context? She cannot walk more than 10mins of journey? So u
die die must have a decent car like Toyota to fetch her
around?
She cannot eat food court stuff and hawker food. If eat,consider
suffering?
She must wear decent clothes like from boutique and cannot
hangten,Balerno and basar Malam clothes?
She must live in good location HDB flat of at least 5 room flat?
(Queenstown,Bishan, Ang Mo Kio)
She no need to do house work and u must die die hire a maid to do
all house work and serve her?
She must at least go long overseas holiday once a year (Places like
USA,France or Australia)
U must be able to maintain $600 of facial fee every month to ensure
youthfulness of yr wife, Facial,Spa,massage?
Must able to hold a wedding ceremony at decent hotel of 25 tables
with each table at least $600.
Wedding photo of at least $4000 for my darling..........
I used to think like u. If i cannot achieve that. Then I will not
think abt r/s and get married. I don't dare to say u are wrong in
thinking these way! Different people different thinking. But I
start to ask myself,how long will I achieve these and is all these
things my darling want?
Acutally starting a family is not as hard as u all think and don't
require a lot of money and is not as complicated as u guy think. Is
just what kind of character is yr partner and what kind of life
style u wants to led. Most important is what she wants and not what
u want her to led....
If u know u are not rich,don't find a spoilt gal who wants
everything good!
I ask my gal,what she wants??
Answer: Yr ultimate love and a family with u[ she also don want to
have first child at old age!(above 30yrs old)].
I did told her I cannot provide her luxuries but she say as long as
we live within our means,can do liao.
I spend less than $12,0000 on a 4 rm HDB flat, Less than $8k on
renovation(all flooring tiles,Full kitchen cabinet,whole flat
painting) $4.5K on all furnitures.
I and my darling take up a 12k loan while our both combine CPF is
$60K and we need to take additional $60K CPF loan with a loan
period of 15 yrs!
We spend time look out for the best deal of our renovation. 1/3 of
our furniture is second half. No plasma TV and Home threate system.
We didn't spend money on Wedding photo and just held a house
warming cum wedding buffet at our home of only $800.
We live within our means and I am happy to have home of our own.
Most importantly,I have a understanding wife who is also content
with what she has!
If I still continue to have the mentality of my past,I may never
achieve or even marry at age of 40yrs old...
Marriage will be complicated if u think is complicated. Marriage
will be simple if u think is that simple!
Is just a matter of yr and yr's parnter mentality!
