This is a really bad
attitude...
what, "she earn less per month/cant get better job"???
what, "His life go downhill after that"???
you are talking in terms of absolutes where there are none...
honours mean better job (not absolute)... better pay (not absolute)
and that means happier? (not absolute)
got into sispec means lower status (only in the military, not in
life) ... lower pay (only in the military, not in life) ... and
miserable life? You/he made himself miserable
(your/his mind), never the situation....
If you want to transform your mind... err learn philosophy (hard)
or take up a religion (easy)