It is a realistic world. We are bound by the rules of the
world. Status, fame, wealth, power, etc, etc. The very things that
make others envious, but in the end they can be taken away and lost
in a split second.
Fleeting 'accessories'.
Who wants to marry a poor guy who can't make the ends meet? Who
wants to be with someone who is not financially sound? Won't you
have to worry about 3 meals a day and a roof over your head? Let
alone have spare change for luxury items?
When our internal survival mindset is based on the rules of the
world, we will find someone who can provide well and ensure
stability, materialistically. We will focus more on all these
stuffs and observe less of other things BECAUSE nothing of this
world is for certain. We fear instability, we lack faith, we do not
even know our own footing on 'the ground'.
So for guys/gals/others who know and would like to be with such
people who is so obsessed with material 'security', I have a cruel
comment for you: You are better off without them. Emptiness in
their hearts, fears, insecurities, obsessions, etc, etc.
In the end when we are all old and about to leave this world, WHAT
can we take with us on the way? Money? Power? Status? Fame? What we
can take is ourselves only. Our personality, behaviour, manner of
speech and thoughts and some others.
Ya sure, without financial security, how to survive? Its something
we are bound and trapped in. Can't be helped. Have to make a
living, make ends meet.
What we can do with our lives, however, is something that is up to
us. We may not be able to control the results, but at least we can
control our actions.
(Paiseh abit off track, but I do NOT wanna comment on gender
issues. Neverending story...) 
