Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Your mindset is
veered towards some uncontrollable ill feeling, bred from
negativity that came from your subconscious. If you actually read
what you write, there are self-made conclusion/s appearing in your
post even if there wasn't plot moving along that direction.
You are worried that your relationship couldn't take the distance,
given the reason that this relationship is young. Contrary to your
belief, most LDR failed because they are lengthy and not because
they are relatively young in nature.
If your relationship cannot even stomach that distance, it really
wonders how are you going to envision your relationship to overcome
greater obstacles that will bound to crash in your way?
(I am assuming from that fact that this
isn't an LDR because you have mentioned that you did meet
him up before he left overseas to visit his sister. And because of
the nature of his trip, it is highly unlikely that he will remain
there and transform this relationship into a LDR?)
In fact, your post worries me because you
do not seem to have anybody else dependable to resolve your
crisis. You have misread my post for belittling the role of
companionship in a relationship; I mentioned that the
[b]over-emphasis on companionship makes a relationship
unhealthy - it wasn't implied that they arent important. Same goes
for over-dependency... of anything. (Worst if Cancer, Scorpio,
Pisces)
I don't see a reason why should you fear having your 'small flame'
die out. Is he even showing signs of drifting in the first place?
Or is there anything suspicious that could constitute cheating or
anything critical to extinguish that little flame of yours?
Absolute nothing my dear... it's just
you.
P.S: When you stack bricks of Lego one after another - the taller
it is, the easier it is to fall. Although it's equally possible for
uneven placing of Lego bricks to collapse from a shorter build, but
one thing for sure - it's easier to clear up and start all over
again and the impact of the fall is less 'deafening'?
I am sure you understand what I am driving at. 
Cheers[/b]
no, this is a LDR.
I do have friends who were there for me during the crisis. Actually
i dun need anyone to 'help' me resolve the crisis, because i am
pretty independent. But when you are close you someone, you would
love that someone to be there for you when you are weakest, most
vulnerable, right?
We are not talking. communication is breaking down.
And it is really frustrating when you call someone close to you,
and that someone is never picking up the phone. That breeds my
insecurity too.
