I think i understand the threadstarter.
a) TS needs help in getting the brother to stop smoking in the
house.
b) TS concerned about health of all family members. Parents,
herself and smoker sibling.
c) TS is sharing this information out to create more
awareness.
Hope, i am right on all the above.
I am a smoker. 27 yrs old. I smoked since 13yrs old.
For those who says that smoking in own room is already give enough
face and considerate enough, i beg to differ.
I suppose those that still smoke at home regardless of non-smoking
aging parents/siblings/kids,
1) either you a selfish and self centered person as you take
comfort and pleasure at the sake of others. and/or
2) too young to really understand what is
respect/concern/care/consideration especially to your own
family.
and/or
3)You managed to get your own place by your own means.
There could be lots of reasons why... but before i carry on, i
think i should talk about myself.
When i was young around 13+, i smoked because i was working. May
sound lame, but the cigarettes made me looked 'adult' and 'cool' so
i could blend in the environment. Now people smoke because friends
smoke.
Guess its the same? To blend in and not to be left out.
The other reason was i needed the light. I was afraid of ghost at
that time and the only light i had was my cigarette. It was my
friend and buddy and bodyguard and 'Holy fire' to ward off evil. I
had to walk a long distance of dark deserted road after work in the
wee hours.
Ok, now about smoking at home. My own experience.
13+ yrs old: i don't dare let parents know. Dad cancer, Mum high
blood.
Fom 16+yrs old onwards: i started to smoke in toilets, late nights
at home. Dad died from cancer.
From 17yrs onwards: I smoke in rooms, toilets, living room anywhere
i want, anytime i want. I thought i had grown up. I thought why
cannot.
Around 21yrs old til now: Had lots of experiences in life
throughout. Still learning things now.
Then i realised the world don't only revolve around me and how i am
going to do things. After so many years, then i woke up from my
hatred and selfishness. I learnt sometimes,
1. Giving consideration is recieving consideration.
2. Respect if not given is not recieved. Respect is earned over
time.
3. A man should take more pain and strain to improve.
In short, i hope the threadstarter and family will be able to get
it worked out.
And i hope more smokers will be like me, smoke out of the house,
don't make others suffer while we smoke with pleasure. Some more is
our loved ones who already sound out distress.
