What Can I do about a father who never Care ?

rikki SG

The world would be a better place, If every child knew their worth to their family.

I could fully relate to how you feel. =\

browniebaobao SG

If i were TS, I would have the urge to beat him up too..

but nope.. ever since my dad has left this world..

i wish i wish.. i wish i had another chance to talk to him nicely, hug him and tell him I love him..

No matter what he did to you and your family.. he's the one who gave you life.

I have a buddy.. his dad also kept a woman outside.. for years.. the mum was always waiting for him to come home.. and prentending that she dinoe anything.. my buddy refused to talk to him ever since.. and they used to be very very close..

Few years have passed.. finally he returned home.. left that woman.. but not long after, he met with an accident, broke his leg, suffered serious injuries and is still in a coma right now. My buddy travelled in and out of JB just to visit him despite of her busy work schedule.. and it really hurts me when I saw the scars on her wrist.. she must have attempted to cut her wrist many times before..

TS, be there for your mum. When her husband is always not around, she can only rely on her children. Have you ever asked your mum why is she waiting? Bcos she still treats him as her husband or because of her children? If he ever lays a finger on you or your family again, make a police report ba. You dun use violence to deal with violence. Let the law teach him a lesson.

Be strong ya.. your mum and family still needs you. And no matter what, do not try to end your life or do silly things that will break your mum's heart. And if you need someone to talk to, dun hesitate to call the helplines.

january SG

i empathise with ur plight.
hope you can seek counsellor help
that is the best advice i can give you

jay_rocks SG

faster go to mata liao la. report child abuse

Chris1988 SG

when i read the quote with regards on, "From young, I was always beaten, hands, belts, wooden rots... All that made the cane look like a blessing." i really feel that you've probaly been through hell from young.

but from what i feel if he's able to have a woman outside, i believe he still has a heart. i mean a woman wouldn't fall in love with a man who resorts to violence and has no money right?

in anyways now that you are in poly and able to support yourself in terms of your daily expenses, and your brother is going JC next year and i assume he's 16? 17 this year. should be old enough to think about what to do. have a get together in the family excluding your father that is. try to talk about the problem with your dad. either to live with him, or without.

but personally i feel that you should call the hotlines and get some professional advises. remember do not take things into your own hands. you will only make matters worse. good luck.

M©+square SG

Embarassed I'm getting enough attention lately.....

Sekundes SG

I'm sure if your dad's here, he would've have been proud of you =)
I know he's my dad,
Thats why it holds me back not to do anything drastic.
but my heart hopes no hope for such man anymore,
because there is a void in my heart from young which i always fear this man.
No love at all.

I'm always there for mum, but I've been working and such,
a busy schedule keeps me away from my mum.
My brother, has no mind of his own,
Smoking at the age of 17 now.
I don't know what to say.
He's always looking for trouble,
Sigh...

How or what is PPO ? could you explain it ?

Things are done and considered,
I've not abandon options,
If not i wouldn't have been that helpless.
Thanks for the advice though...

I know what happened to him,
No his way of venting frustration was gambling.
Somehow, I just know I never want to step into a shadow of this man.

Thanks for the advice people.. really gratefull for all the replies..

Yunhaier SG

Twisted Evil

Cheers

Yunhaier SG

I say it would be difficult for anybody for that matter, to view their dad as 'bane' or simply intolerable. Dad is probably the first person we learn to respect in life and of course, if he doesn't earn the respect from his children, it spells much trouble for their bonding.

It's saddening to hear your tale - (I am presuming you are) a teenager: in the process of developing into a fine adult, while having to shoulder such heavy responsibility... learning to look after your sibling/s, your mother and your entire framework of your family.

Eventually, you displaced your dad by being the man of the house.

Like mentioned, you could dial some of the numbers we have here and seek for assistance.

I wish you well. AA is always open for you.

/me pat pat. Idea

Cheers

browniebaobao SG

Sekundes, I know it has been very hard on you.. and you certainly dun deserve such treatment..

however, every family has its own story.. dun be too depressed.. hopefully things will get better..

all the best to you and your family.

I'm sorry I can't help you at all..

Somebody ever said 3 words that really perked me up when i was very depressed..

I'm now going to do the same thing...

Sekundes, Cheer Up! Cheer up! CHEER UP!!!

Sekundes SG

Thanks Auntie Yun =)
can i call u that or miss yun ?

thanks browniebaobao too..

Just need to solve my fyp now since its in the last week, gonna put it behind me for a while..

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