SomeOne Help Me - Just break up with my bf

last SG · 2006-10-31T10:01:46+00:00

sad to say that.. nothing last forever..

uglypig SG

Hi everyone,

SOrry that my english not that good, hope everyone willing to read my story. Although it is just a normal story. Sad

On 4 Oct 2006, my bf (now is my ex bf) msg me in the morning say he want to break up with me, he say our thinking is different. I do not what he suddenly say our thinking is different. When he msg me, i really do not know what to do. I cry when i was working. Luckily boss not around or else i dun know how to face him. Cry so loudly, heart so pain. Together with him for 3 years 7 months and 12 days, then he say our thinking is different. What shit is this. Anyone can tell me. Why why why??? why it happen to me? He is my first love, i love him so deeply, give him whatever he want. But in the end, i get what is return. He just left me like that. Only give me one reason which is thinking different. F**K

Now still thinking of him, but no use. He say we only can be friends, cannot patch back anymore. Cry Cry. No use liao. No matter how much tears i drop, he also dun even bother to care about me anymore. Last sat, i think of him so msg him, asked him what he doing. He say he going to sleep liao, just finish doing duty. I asked him whether he got new gf liao ma? He reply say got, sleeping now. I cried, he say sleeping now. Just know the girl for one week already is gf and sleeping together. Why. Why he can changed his heart so fast. Forget about our 3 years relationship in a short time. Do i mean nothing to him, am i just a tool to him, play finished then say break up. I know he break up with me because of a girl. Maybe he tired to see me anymore. Sad cry.. want to die.....

I and him seldom quarrel one, why suddenly say changed then changed. WHY?

Why a relationship will just end like this? Why a guy can change so fast? Did they ever care about how the girl will feel? Do they know they hurt the girl heart? Why guys give up on one relationship so easily? Why guys can start another relationship so fast?

Anybody can help me? I feeling like dying.......... Crying or Very sad

Thank you

missqi SG

Move on girl.
He doesn't want you, and nothing will ever change that fact.

0lala SG

Hes tired of u
nothing more

uglypig SG

Hi,

Very sad loh. How can you say tired of me then break up? If like that then everyone will get tired of each other liao loh. No one will get marry one day liao lah. Stupid loh... Mad

missqi SG

The trick is.........
To get married before he tires of you. Very Happy

0lala SG

look
he's tired of you hence breaking off with you.
He too probaly don't see you as a partner whom he wants to commit.

M©+square SG

Harsh reality,
difficult to acknowledge the facts. Mental uproot.

Painful.

Please take care and be strong.

That's all i have for now.

pierre^^ SG

sorry to hear that

but since he so heartless, i tink its time to move one

as the reason is not over quarrel, the reason is he step 2 boat lor

i mean u 2 still together, he suddenly got into another relationship and just leave u by sms?

he realli lousy la, by sms.... gutless

this kind of guy, pls dun make the mistake of wanting him back as if he can do it once, he can do it twice

realli time to move on le... though its been almost 6 mths for me... and i still haben move on

but jia you, go out more , meet more ppl and dun jus go into a relationship just becoz someone treat u very gd when u noe each other for short time oni, as u just breakup, u might feel vulneable.

or got into a relationship jus to prove u can find another guy easier

take care

pyjamasgirl SG

if there's really some 'thing' in u n him..
there's sure be a day that u n him will get back.

treat this as a time out.
a new chance to go meet new pp.
a new chance to explore urself. and knw more abt urself.

sometimes, pp must go thru setbacks to get their life back in order.
and then u will knw what u want best...

move on, ok!

if he means a lot to u...
move on. dont keep disturbing him.

show him that u r sensible and rational.
n its his loss..

pierre^^ SG

i tink she slp le

Pitot SG

Don't waste your life over something u think is worthless.

NO POINT.

Quinsy SG

Laughing

dokono SG

He ditched you.

You can't return.

There's no solution for this except to find a new one or wait for your pain to heal.

When someone is turned off or loses feelings for you, the r/s will be like this.

Many guys/girls are in this predicament also. It's not only girls are the victims.

You are not alone.

Be patient with yourself.

doko

uglypig SG

Maybe other say that he tired of me liao ba. Although i hope he will be back one day, but from what i know, he wouldn't. Once break up mean no patch back. I will move on and find another guy that treat me good. I will prove him that it is his loss to lose me. CRY!!!

smudgey SG

Errr. It might give u a bit of comfort to know that when he say "Got, sleeping now" it may not mean that he and the gal are sleeping together now it means he is going to sleep now.

However the purpose of this thread is to help you get over him right? so here's my advice on what u should do.

1) some of my friends when they broke up, they say "I'm letting go, trying to heal, but who knows he might come back to me..." pls know that that is not letting go. that is still holding on. You have to make up your mind. know that there is now 0% possibilities of you two getting together again.

2) throw away, or hide away all the little things that will remind you of the good times... i know it is impossible to hide everything, but i'm just talking about the small but powerful stuff like, the ring he bought you, the happy photos you two have taken, etc. u do not have to throw away, just keep it so u do not have to see it.

3) busy yourself. fill your life with activities, go out with your friends, take up a sports, surround yourself with ppl who loves you.

4) everytime you start to think "hmm... we used to..." "hmmm... that's where we..." " what's he doing now..." distract yourself. don't linger in the past. focus on the future.

5) pamper yourself. you deserve it. if you wanna go for a short trip, go for it.

6) be patient. getting over someone is not easy. it is not instant. you have to be patient, resist all urge to call/sms/contact him. you have to be disciplined.

and lastly. let others help you. let them cheer you up. take care.... you can PM me if you just like to talk to someone.

uglypig SG

Haha, i only 21 years old. So young get married wow. Although, i always wish to get married at 25 years old but it is very hard if i cannot find the guy that is meant to me. Why the guy has not appear??

uglypig SG

Hmm, ok loh, if he really think that i am not the one i also cannot say anything else. just feel that he very heng xin.

the Bear SG

for starters, why call yourself "uglypig" ?

don't think like that..

now that things have reached this stage, cry, mourn, wail, grief... then try your damnest to move on..

do the things you were doing by yourself before he came along.. go out with friends, do stuff.. try to keep your mind off the whole thing...

after a while, you will find that time does wear away the jagged edges of the hurt, and it becomes bearable...

and after more time, you will look upon this time as a memory and a lesson, a milestone in life...

most suffer multiple heartbreaks before they find someone for good...

i'm no exception, and i'm middle-aged, and still looking...

so keep up your spirits, i hope you will be well sooner rather than later, yah? Smile

blu_sky SG

If a man can get tired of you so easily, that means he is juz not meant to be. Better to break up now, than to divorce if he gets tired of you already after you got married rite?

Chin up, gal. You're still young. Sure can find someone who treasures you!

smudgey SG

oooh... the bear... i like your siggy!! so cute...

and prettypig (don't like calling you ugly) you should learn to love yourself...

remember... the breakup is NOT your fault.