Spicing up the r/s is dependant on both side. If only one side
is making all the effort while the other side does nth, sooner or
later one will burn out and things will get messy.
You may assume that the world still continues with or without
you, but you will definately shatter someone's world if you are not
around. Everyone on this planet do not simply just exist here or by
accident. We all have a purpose and we have a duty to make
ourselves live a life, be ALIVE.
I do not know how to handle such situation if I were in your shoes,
but I know that communication is a must to clarify certain issues
and problems. You are married with someone, that means you trust
him with your life and secrets and everything else as he trust you
the same. You are no robo maid or something. You have feelings. You
have joy, fear, warmth, cold, etc, etc.
A marriage is possible because both parties decided to share their
lives with each other and trust each other with their lives. If you
are unable to tell him your concerns or he is not listening, I have
to ask: how did you came to agree to the marriage in the first
place?
