Cheating! - Where do you draw the line?

last SG · 2006-12-07T11:45:02+00:00

sounds good , thats means i can be massaged and at the same time my missus can keep and eye on me? let me think about it

blu_sky SG

i know, but i am replying a qn you know? Rolling Eyes

Space1999 SG

i know , but it will always be out there, one mistake, one weakness, one bad day, one drink , and end up in bed
bamm!
thats how it happens
woman when they are emotionally weak is when they make the most mistakes, men ?they are just waiting for that moment.

blu_sky SG

Like i said, dun put yourself in that position. dun go out alone lah.

Space1999 SG

true, but from many years of experience
close friend are sometimes aftermath of a previous relationship which ended but both parties wanted to be still friends.opposite sex friends are always from that source if they are very close
what if your bf/gf close friend have a history with him/her
can you still accept it?
i mean they had sex before , you know?

choco B SG

LOL alot of grey areas. Can't offer any concrete rules. However I think some things are true for everyone guy or girl

1. Your partner cannot fulfill your every need. Most your needs yes, but not all.

2. Life is more than just a relationship, you need to have your own interests and friends

and lastly

3. People are innately selfish. You want to enjoy lax rules, but it's difficult to accept your partner doing the same LOL

Space1999 SG

easier said than done,
when you are emotionally weak , you will seek out the closest one to you for your needs isnt it?

Space1999 SG

agree totally, we are all selfish, but for my wife sake , i cut out all my "angels" from my life.

blu_sky SG

Ya, very true.

So whenever i am at a dilemma on whether to do something, i will alway use the Golden rule: Do not do unto others, what i do not want others to do unto me.

blu_sky SG

And the closest one to you for your needs should be your partner!

blu_sky SG

Not true. some friendships have no history.

blu_sky SG

When i was with my ex-bf, he maintained his friendship with his ex. i was fine with it. Honesty and trust are very important for that to happen.

Space1999 SG

is it okay for your bf to keep his ex as a close confidant, you dont worry if they go out for coffee alone for two hours ?

Space1999 SG

yes i agree
but its a very fine line there. and sometimes its tempting fate.

the_don SG

wah u gangster ah.. guardian angel Shocked

a fren is a fren, u confide in them and stuff that is normal. guy or gal dun matter. sometimes i confide in guy frens to get insights to a guy's mindset.

just remember to do all these heart to heart, crying, sobbing, things over the phone. doing in face to face may result in things happening

the_don SG

no.....

deceit = lying, hiding on purpose

cheating =

Space1999 SG

haha not me
blu_sky guardian angel!
correct , not face to face

blu_sky SG

One will always qn why the bf needs a close confidant? what is there that can be discussed between them cant be discussed with the gf? Guess this is something that needs to be sorted out.

From my past experience, i could accept it cos my then bf was absolutely honest with me (imo), and thereon, trust was established. And yes, they did go out alone at times, not just for coffee, for dinners or lunches too which stretched more than 2 hours.

the_don SG

if all your FRIENDS footsie you. then ya it is normal - FOR U. to the general popuation, that is considered SEDUCTION.

if the person receiving the footise rejects the advances of the other party, no cheating done. however if the person receiving the footise lets it happen, then he/she is part of the "cheating".

blu_sky SG

Then you expect your partner to cut off all ties with all friends with opposite sex? Talk over the phone occasionally or group outing oso cannot?

Shocked

choco B SG

What's "footsie" ?! Laughing

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