Today we just broke off and it was on rather bad terms as
well.
Her main unhappiness was that I didnt respect her and that my heart
is not with her. I am confused. Its true that i am shui bian but I
didnt cheat or abuse her. I aso didnt disrespect her or what.
Below are the list of things which she's not happy about:
- Meet once or twice a week (she says its too few)
- Mostly, she calls (she's not happy that I didnt call much)
- When she's troubled, she's unhappy that I didnt notice and didnt
console her
- She once impersonated a third person gal and pretended to
befriend me. She's upset that I agreed to meet up and be friends
with that "girl".
- I keep a few pictures of female models
- I wrote in an internet forum about how the r/s was giving me
stress at a period of time. (she found out and was not happy)
The thing which happened today was the icing on the cake. She had a
language exam today and I sms'ed to ask her how was it. The first
part was ok and after the break, she sms'ed to say that the second
part was difficult. Then she came to my place to borrow a book. I
was tired and asked her to come up to my place to take it.
My impression was that she wanted the book and go straight off to
photostat, so I just passed her the book and closed the metal gate.
She flared up and accused me of being insensitive and not consoling
her about the exam and treating her "like a dog" by not inviting
her into the house.
I was very surprised. She has stayed over at my place the night
before so its surprising that she flared up when I didnt invite her
in. Also, I thot that the difficult part of the exam was a minor
part since it was only listening.
I'm not all bad. I also buy her things, sms her, provide advice and
encouragement, drive her home if the family car is avaliable. Like
today, she forgot her exam pass, so I drove her all the way to her
house to collect her pass(which is quite far) and drove her
back.
I would like to see opinions on which have I done wrong?
Ya, on hindsight, I should have been more attentive about her
troubles but the thing is she didnt tell me. Things like buying of
cinema tickets. Most of the time she buys the tickets in advance
and she didnt sound displeased or what. But when we have our
arguments, she'll bring up this matter and say I take her for
granted. I mean......if she's tired or feel that i'm taking for
granted, why don't she tell me in the first place..... I can buy
the ticket. 
Its mostly these things which seem normal but somehow she takes it
very seriously. Its confusing. Like sometimes when I am busy, i
didnt reply to her sms immediately or soon enough, and she gets
upset.
And I think she's unable to let past events go. Like sometimes when
we are happily walking, she'll just say things like "you don't love
me" or "you take me for granted".
Hai........its confusing. Which part am I in the wrong?
