Especially to people who share the general view of
Yunhaier,fymk,mix metal etc...
Goodness....this world is worth living in because there're still
people treating others decently. Now that we're talking abt love,
why dun you look to the wiser old couples who still have a strong
marriage and hear their words of wisdom? Most will tell you that
love is ultimately more commitment than natural feelings.
When you first choose a partner amongst singles, you should choose
someone compatible, with whom there is mutual natural attraction.
That IS the time to choose. And at this point, feelings do play a
significant role, since you have to decide amongst a few compatible
ones. But the longer you are in an r/s, the more commitment and
responsibility plays a role (9yrs!!!!).
We realise nature gives us a desire for sex, but our human dignity
compels us to share it only with our spouse. It is people who lack
commitment but follow their feelings blindly that are responsible
for the divorce and heartache in society.
I feel posters who urge the TS to "follow her feelings" AND at the
same time feel that outsiders cannot judge her according to a
common sense interpretation of her tale are utterly wrong.
(A) She should either come to her senses and repent of her action
and what she has become, and learn to love her bf again.
or
(B) refuse to change herself and break up wif bf in the least
painful way to him. That would be to admit that she is totally in
the wrong and she is not worthy of his love at all. (WHICH IS THE
TRUTH) and of cos find out later on that without commitment, there
is no everlasting marital happiness.
