Help. I am in love with four women. (long post)

last SG · 2006-10-22T13:46:16+00:00

hm... did u watch the movie ---> John tucker must die... i think u are a bit like him... heehee!! anyways , maybe u can hint to the girls and chose the...

aRcTiC_sTaR SG

Haha well if he thinks that he can handle 4 girls at one go, then let him have a go at it.

sunny6110 SG

Date all 4 la~! afterall, 19 still young mah… But they can’t know… U go figure out urself… exciting… U will hv grandpa’s stories to tell when u grow old and ur final one will be the luckiest girl on earth.. hehe

Pitot SG

Just do it like you did in school!

Write A,B,C,D on ur eraser and let fate decide.

So easy! multiple choice elimination oso much teach you! Mad

Mad Mad Mad

Blahhh SG

Ok. I expected others to be very angry and skeptical. I am right. So let me talk a little bit about myself(my favourite topic).

I was nothing at 15 years old. No friends, no girlfriend, nothing. My dad is different. When he got hospitalized for a minor heartattack, flocks of people came to visit him. It even impressed the nurses there.

My dad emphasized the importance of having the ability to make others feel for you. Basically, he just told me I need to bulk up on my social skills. So he taught me stuff like eye contact, remembering peoples names, having a good listening ear, making others feel important while showing them I am of high status myself and so on. Those are just the basics that most people learn as they get older. The old man taught me more. His teaching, time and me going out experimenting all over the place, gained me much wisdom. I got to know many people who otherwise, be total strangers in my life.

Its a natural flow my social skills became more polished, I started mixing with the opposite sex and I keep learning.

There are many dudes with GREAT social skills. You think that fat ah beng got his chio girlfriend by luck izzit? There are many guys who go clubbing solely to pick up women for an ONS... and they are very SUCESSFUL

I look very average. I am not working and I the only vehicle I have isnt a Ferrari. Its not even 4 wheeled. I am currently riding a 200cc bike with a p-plate still on. So how? Those things are just added bonuses. Whats important isnt an expensive car, a whole line of credit cards, nice condominium or good looks (but it helps). Whats important is you having a great personality.

Thats why I always tell my friends who have problems getting a girl to like him to work on their social skills first.

alexkusu SG

Stay friends with them and choose someone else as your gf.

BrUtUs SG

sounds like another clone looking for attention thread... Rolling Eyes

hiphop2009 SG

go find a girl which has a combination of these qualities....muahahax...

hmm, well...find one, juz one, trust me, one is enough.......

Bontakun SG

Hey... for once I see a pretty impressive post from you. Mr. Green

marzguy SG

Stay alone for a while and listen to your heart. See who u need or desire more when u are alone. Smart, independent, alluring or sweet, which attract u most and u wont feel tired of. If i am in ur shoe, i will stay single, so i can still have them as friends without hurting any. Inaddition, I can have more space to explore more of myself and keep my options open. The advise from us may be subjective due to different likings. Nevertheless, you are 19, there are still more of the world to explore. Dont limit yourself, open your heart and options.

kaobeikaobu SG

its indeed an agonizing problem when all dont really like u.

kindly post in this thread after u find tat out... Smile

Lost_Drift SG

Choose one: The one

NekoRin SG

Well love goes both ways, since the OP can't cater for their wishes of being commited to just 1 and they can't abide to the OP having 4 girlfriends/wives in future.... I guess the answer is clearly shown here.

To the OP, imho you are in this dilemma is cuz... you bite off more than you can chew. Please commit to just 1 girl... and....this has nothing to do with your popularity at all or how good you are at socialising, don't go OOT :3

vgal SG

I find it very hard to believe this story. Rolling Eyes

rmyfrm SG

My sentiments exactly.

I'm Chinese btw, but when I read this story objectively as an impartial observer .. can't help but feel that the underlying purpose is to incite race/religion hate.

pwnz0r SG

At the age of 19, and such a wandering heart, what's makes you think you will stop at 4?

The problem isn't out there or with the girls. It is with your own heart.

I can confess that I was placed in a similar situation as yours before, although it was 2 girls. I dunno how you managed to handle 4 girls, 2 was already painful enough for me, in terms of emotional conflicts and wanting to be fair to everyone.

In hindsight, just make a decision to the person you will want to be with, and not look back. Everytime you want to think and imagine 'what if..', you plant seeds of doubt into your own current relationships.

I think you let your eyes and heart wander, and even your actions. You should be more careful on how you behave with other people.

Also, although Muslims are allowed to have up to 4 wives, you seldom see this happening in Singapore and even Malaysia. Ask yourself why men choose to be with one women at one time as their wife even though they can possibly have more than one.

Yunhaier SG

Cause the first wife kp until the man cannot take it? Laughing Twisted Evil

Cheers

vgal SG

how long did you manage to 2-time them without them knowing?

And if 4-time, how long do you think you can keep the fire under the paper?

pwnz0r SG

It was not two timing, but the choice of 2 girls at the same time. Both were on the verge on a serious relationship. The emotional anguish was already bad enough, to even consider being in a relationship with 2 at one time.

I can only conclude that TS is a heartless and gives no thought to the feelings of other girls, if he can have relationships with 4 girls at one time.

vgal SG

Noted.

The keyword is, over a time of TWO years. Would you be able to take 2 years to decide on which gal to choose?

Personally, i had been in such a situation everyby i didnt know who to choose. Honestly, 2 weeks felt like 2 mths.

And how to allocate the TS' time to the 4 gals? each week there is only one sat and one sun. How to allocate weekends to the 4 gals without arousing their suspicion? And the TS could do it over 2 years!?

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CyNdI)4.eVa SG

Originally posted by Blahhh:
[b]Note: All names are made up for reason of personal interests

I am 19 years old. I am facing a problem, which not many people have. This frustrates me seeing that limits to the amount of people I can turn to. Thus, as my last resort, I come to you.

Two years ago, I met a wonderful girl named Rachael. She is very sweet, rarely cuss at all and cares a lot about her family. I seen a lot of girls showing disrespect to their parents and siblings nowadays, but not her. She is very intelligent, one of the smartest girl I met. Her looks are very alluring and she never fails to make me go into the mood.

At the same time I met Rachael, I met Wendy. She isnt as alluring compared to Rachael in the looks side. In fact, I dont find her sexually attractive at all. We first started out as normal friends. Eventually, I got to learn more about her personality and quite frankly, I am impressed. My heart just grew for her.

Wendy is an independent woman. She doesnt need a guy to tell her what to do. She has a mind of her own. She is no older then me, yet she works part time to help SUPPORT her family. She even knows how to cook great meals. Compared to Rachael, shes lacking in book smarts, but her street smarts are brilliant.

In short, Wendy is the kind of girl that a family man needs.

Two years later today. The year has been quite good for me. I started a new leaf in life and certain areas of my life have drastically improved. And I met two ladies.

Whitney and Jamie are their names. Whitney has my eyes the moment I laid them on her. Her personality is that of an ah-lian, but such attitudes dont scare me. Shes quite sweet and dropped her ah lian personality once we get to know each other. I think the only reason I am remotely interested in her is because shes very hot. I even warned her that if we were ever alone in a room, things are GONNA happen.

I guess the only reason that I like her is because she's attractive.

Unlike Whitney, Jamies looks dont interest me at all. She got into the plain Jane list the moment I laid eyes on her.

Jamie didn't liked me at first. The feeling was mutual. We were "enemies" within the first week we met.

Circumstances changed and we began talking. I figured its better to have more friends then enemies, so I happily started socializing with her. Eventually, I started to learn more about her personality.

Jamie is most probably, the sweetest girl I have ever met. She doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke and the best part, she actually behaves like a lady. A GREAT change of scenery from all the other girls who tries desperately to imitate Paris Hilton. She has both book and street smarts. I enjoyed reading between the lines whenever I talk to her and it seem she had bad experiences with men (which explains her defensive stance against me when we first met).

That basically summarized all the ladies so far in my life. I love them all and they love me too.

Singapore is a small place. Eventually, they learnt of each other existence. I cant even go out with them nowadays, without being blasted with commitment issues. Frankly, I am getting very annoyed and pissed off by it.

I practice the Islamic faith. According to the religion, a Muslim man can marry up to four women. I figured out that applies to courtship as well. So, I don't really see a problem in having four girlfriends.

The problem for me now is choice. They want me to choose. I cant do that, dammit. From my POINT OF VIEW, its either I am with all 4 of them, separating myself fairly, or I go back to singlehood and casual dating with random girls again.

State your opinions and advice. Greatly appreciated.
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one love.

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