Major problem here, not with her but with you. This statement by
you implies that you were controlling her, perhaps from the start
of the relationship. There is also the implication that when she
was with you, she didn't go out with her friends on a regular
basis. It sounds as if the two of you had become so absorbed with
one another that you eventually neglected other aspects of your
life, like your own circles of friends.
Speaking from experience, when a woman says that she no longer has
that feeling with you anymore, it is very likely that she
doesn't love you anymore. It is as plain and simple as
that. No amount of convincing will work because she doesn't have
the same feelings for you anymore.
Edit: Whoops, just read your reply. Yes, you are
definitely being strung along as a backup. This happens to every
guy who isn't savvy enough to recognise that. In a way, she is
developing the element of false hope in you by saying that if she
regrets it, she will come back to you. Most of the time, this
doesn't happen and if you place your hopes on that, you will be
disappointed as sh1t when she ends up with a new guy.
Sidenote: Don't bother asking a woman what they
want. You will never get the real answer because they don't know
what they want.
The sooner you get on with life and meet new people, the
better.
