Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Man are different because man invest differently
from woman in a relationship.
Woman are usually afraid of marrying a wrong man, while man are
usually more afraid of being the 40-years old virgin.
I could see that your need for security rank high in your
priorities and anyone who doesn't give you that level of comfort
and security will not make it, which may probably be the reason why
you are still single, as you eliminated those potential because all
the man in your life doesn't give you the time/chance needed for
you to 'check goods' thoroughly and agree... for you to be able to
give up current security and venture into a new realm - namely a
relationship.
I believe that you are open for choices, but not to the extend of
desperation. But I also hope that the deliberate time-taking isn't
a byproduct of a bad BGR past, which hoist the level of
scrutinizing in your search for your other half because having one
bad experience doesn't equate bad destiny. Or if you have very
empty/clean/clear history in BGR, may I encourage you take
calculated risk to learn more about Love in a relationship and not
first looking for what you reckon as a decent/perfect mate before
having that setting to understand Love.
Moreover, BGR is still a knowing-each-other phrase - you can still
back out if someone isn't suitable.
P.S: Sadly, love business has transformed into a buffet-rush-style
and not the intended wine-appreciation session. Perhaps people are
too pre-occupied with societal pressure of avoiding being a
bachelor/bachelorette when they are of marriageable age. Some
people worries about the age-kids factor, but I hope to remind
everyone that when you say your marriage vow, this vow is only
between a husband and a wife - everything else is extraneous.
Because everyone else will leave you someday, during different
phrase of your living life, but only your eventual significant
other will stay with you until your life expire and on your way to
meet God.
I remember fondly about my friend's dad (now living in Aussie)
demanded one day specially, just wanting to spent time with his
wife and his wife threw in the kids factor.
'You are married to me; you
aren't married to the kids!'
Therefore in a marriage, it's not a question of age, kids, parents,
religion, race, distance or whatever - [b]it's a question of
Love. 
Cheers [/b]
hmmz yeah i forgot to say that.
hes jsut asking to go into a relationship?? meaning not like askign
you for sex now or marraige?? you get to know the person more
during the relationship right? and not like get a complete
investigation then get involved. of course thats more for ht
initial stages of the relationship
