I am a teochew myself and grew up in an extended family with
uncles and aunties, grandparents. I remember hearing from friends
during my time in Poly that their opinions of teochews are that
they are a nasty lot of people.
Your opinion may differ lah but to me it is very true.
I am not sure whether this kind of things are common in common
household or not but I would like to list out my unpleasant
experiences with this lot of people as a kid.
I was living together with this lot of people for a period of
12yrs. because you know in the 80s we still have kampongs in areas
like lim chu kang, punggol.
My parents and siblings are the only nice people among so many
people I grew up with.
My grandfather: very hot tempered teochew. unfortunately I was a
torn in his eyes, he will scream and shout at me for no reason when
he is in a bad mood and most of the time he is in a bad mood, he is
like one of those cobras in attacking mode, once I do something
that irritate him, he will pounce and the most nasty and condemning
words will come out from his mouth.
He likes to use Lo** B**, P* B** (famous and most popular teochew
vulgarities)
Grandmother (a teochew also): likes to bully my mother
Youngest uncle: very narrow minded person, perhaps he is
being
Over pampered since he is the youngest kid of my grandparents
I remember as a kid when I said the wrong words (not vulgarities);
just saying I am not free when he wanted me to do something.
Because of that he bear grudges with me from then on. Scolding me
C***B** all that on occasions and never talk to me. So as a kid
that was a threat and I actually lived in fright and try to stay as
far away from him as possible.
I also witness my self how he wanted to whack up my brother as a
kid when my brother tease him. Luckily my other uncles and father
are there and they restrain him.
4th uncle: very nasty fellow also. Very wayward person. A beng in
that era.
Enjoy making fun and interrupting the young lady tutor my mother
hired for us plus other nasty things he is capable of.
These people are really full of flaws. I also have 6 aunties and
some of them are already married by the time I was born.
These people love to show off among each other and bad mouth about
each other, creating rivalry among siblings.
comparing and mocking at achievments of kids of siblings.
Uncles fighting for family fortunes after grandfather passed
away.
Not that I am biased towards my father or whatever but frankly
speaking, only my father is the nice one among that group of
people
I wonder whether this is common among Chinese household. Whenever I
watch Chinese dramas for example (point of no return), people are
always scheming against one another, all wanting $$ and power, love
to show off their wealth
Thats why in the other thread I was asking how well it will be if
we can become a truly gracious society instead.
I never want to be like any one of them. I may not be perfect but I
do hope I will never inherit of those nasty character or
personality. I really feel sad for my mother having to put up with
those nasty people.
In fact due to verbal abuse as a kid I grew up with a lot of
emotional related problems. E.g. low self esteem, severe anxiety,
depression etc
How about you people? Do you have similar experiences? Are your
relatives like mine? I hope your relatives are much better than
mine.
