Originally posted by qy_von:
[b]Hi all,
Ive been with my bf for a year plus and we love each other deeply.
Problem is we have nothing in common and I am really bored in the
relationship itself.
He doesnt like to go out on the streets, and if we do hang out,
itd be with his group of friends and their girlfriends, sitting
around talking. When I am over his home, hell be either on the com
or watching repeated shows on SCV.
I have talked to him about this, but to him, it seems like staying
home with me is consider spending time together already. But its
boring me. I dont mind staying home, but quality time to me
includes heart to heart talk, and not just watching some shows on
TV all the time.
Sex is an issue too. He comes in less than 15 secs and I am always
left unsatisfied and incomplete. I tried to suggest buying vibrator
to play around but he said he doesnt like sex toys. Fingering
doesnt do me much
And even if go second round, by the time he
erects again, I have already lost the mood.
He is a very nice guy, and I feel bad for having so many complaints
about him. But I dont know why I am feeling so bored and
frustrated in our relationship
I dont want to cheat, I dont want
to break off
What can I do?[/b]
-Consult him, tell him how you feel about this. Leave an open
end for him to think about. If he treasure you, I am sure he will
make some abjustment for you. As you, perhap try to understand the
reason behine why he felt to be at home rather spending some
quailty time. Try make some adjustment as well.
-When a relationship hit a bottleneck, this usually happen. You
both need to discuss with an open mind.
-As of sex, probably he isnt high in sex drive, probably low too.
Try to find some common ground, find out what interest him most,
play along with what he desired. Also have open talk about your
sexual desires and his too will help better sex.
