Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I do sympathize with your case; somewhat a mixture
of helpless abandonment, addiction and extreme despondent in your
sadistic relationship. There are two distinctive power struggles:
between a girlfriend and a gal friend AND that of a boyfriend and
his friends. This heavy power struggle has robbed you (the Lioness)
of your divine authority that is bestowed onto you - the position
of a girlfriend in a status and rights.
When a Leo is denied of his/her rights, the Lion/Lioness becomes
aggressive and vindictive. But chances are (especially when Mars is
not strong), the big cat's howl is worst than its bite. You may
look terrifying, but beneath that exterior is a wounded cat.
This wound represents your ego and you have also lost much of your
previous radiance because you can't seemed to receive the kind and
form of affection you deeply craved. You don't make tremendous
demands and that all you need is for him to gently stroke your mane
and cuddle into your embrace.
The big cat needs to feel love and affection from his partner,
before he/she could give a wide smile, reciprocate the same
euphoric affection and become a happy lion once again. 
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Have you ever thought of the fact that your bf's
ex-gf could have actually hated her like the way you did? Have you
thought of the fact that her presence may have contributed some
percentage of a reason why their relationship has ended? This girl
is definitely unconscious to her style of relating to one category
of people - namely your bf's gf: you. It doesn't matter who is in
YOUR position, for she would have replicate the exact attitude and
pissed the hell out of anyone being that position - your bf's gf:
you.
Your emotional suppression is unhealthy. Being obstinate and
fixedly in your pathetic situation will only brought forth further
grudges, discontentment and suffering.
You seriously need to communicate: he probably has to listen/know
all these replies you have posted up here because ONLY he can
exercise decision that would make you breathe easier. He, likely
under influence from his friends (inclusive of her), may create a
distorted picture of what you are feeling or going through in his
perception. If you don't speak and allow yourself to be heard, you
will always be the 'over-sensitive' girlfriend.
And obviously, to allow your words to go into his head and remain
in there, you cannot be yelling,
appeared-to-be-wild-trashing-about-things and all sort of thingy
that would symbolize a crazy girlfriend overwhelmed by emotions. It
has to be a discussion... a serious talk that may roll tears, but
the content has to be there and [b]NOT another
'compromised' communication.
Understand this:
You may not have a choice to choose his friends, but you certainly
have your own rights to dislike her and avoid hanging out
altogether. Likewise, your boyfriend may not have a choice to
manipulate your liking/hate for her, but certainly, he could have
some understanding and AVOID having situations caught up between
the two of you, like putting two fighting spiders in a match
box.
To avoid such situations:
I) You don't have to be there when her presence is there.
II) You don't have to ask your boyfriend to make choices: between
you or them (best friend and best friend's gf). Just let him know
that you can't connect to her world and it is making you depress.
So the solution is to live in separate worlds.
III) Then ask your boyfriend to allocate time separately - their
world and yours.
Remember, I think you would rather have 2 hours of quality time
spent with him, than one day of group outing with him and someone
you abhorred.
You will probably spent less time with him; make use of this time
to think about what you really want in your relationship and what
you would like him to understand, know, accept and do. Should you end your
relationship, make that ending based on a substantial reason and
not out of emotional explosion.
Cheers [/b]
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That's it...the whole horoscope thing..its exactly it...I didn't
use to be like this...I was so happy and carefree and ready to
embrace everything..life..love..all that...now I've just become so
jealous, so bitter, so overly suspicious..so freaking low about
myself...and it just infects my bf until he's desperate for me to
smile to the pt where he makes me whether I like it or not..im just
scared that he and the girl will get closer if Im not there.That
she will touch him and cross the line. How do I overcome
this?
I am sucha idiot when it comes to relationships...I mean its not a
game where u deliberately draw back and hope the guy pines for
you...im not that type of girl..but somehow..sad to say..that
strategy works.
