stellazio SG thats what people like u think..i have friends who will totally burn ur theory.. welcome to the real world dude..
CannyOng SG U have friends that prove y r theory and I have real life example and friends to prove my theory 100percent acceptable. I have my yantao friend living happily with her last time so call beautiful wife after she give birth, he is famous for looking chio bu and we cannot imagine he can continue live with her obese wife...but now no problem with this couple and they r living happily!!!
Agenda SG Same probs with you dude, Except lighter by 4 kg and taller by 1 or 2 cm I told her I like her then months later somehow it got out again cause she was asking me stuffs.. Now she got broken up with BF and I'm not letting this chance slip away or sit around and pray for a miracle Take your time, Girls may shun people like us but sure sincerity isn't outdated yet
Agenda SG Lose 10 in 2 weeks is difficult, You'll end up maybe losing 3 kg or even worse.. Gain I think its within everyone's nature to have a good-lookin other half, Even my teacher says that for guys.. We look at the person's appearance like maybe some people like average looking de then they go get to know each other then decide on the personality part Remember, Guys making first move are always motivated and encouraged by how attracted they're to the girl's looks.. Even overweight girls can be loved, Just must see how they present themselves Not sure about girls, But I've seen a not so good looking nor fit guy with a nice looking girl
alexkusu SG Its not about weight, its about you coming on too fast hence losing all the appeal you had with her
valerieee SG maybe give her some time to cool down first?perhaps she is still in a state of shock as u confessed to her pretty fast.just give her some time then try to talk to her bout the matter again…
browniebaobao SG I tot wat did she do to u that u are thinking whether to forgive, forget or to take revenge.. juz let it pass, and meet some other better girls la.
cloud00 SG Its not that i cant stand rejection .... i CAn but i dun know wat is wrong ??? Why is she avoiding me ? What have i done wrong ? I just wanna see if another me will have another effect on her of just the same ~ btw ... the ger is just average not real gorgeous or beautiful , its just dat i feel we can click .... den suddenly~ Maybe she just likes the fact of someone spending time with her but not going into a relationship~ As for now , i take a step at a time and see how things go .... Current Weight Status 82kg~
browniebaobao SG i dun think weight is a big issue leh. since u have so many doubts, maybe u should juz ask her?
azurewaves SG slim down better la next time wan to jio gal oso easier. fat with an attractive personality canot beat yandao with atttractive personality. forget it and juz move on la. u oso not say like her until u canot eat canot sleep even when pang sai oso will constipate. if she dun wan to say the more u ask or anything she might juz get more tight lipped. juz toughen ur act(and slim down) and fool ard a lil bit. maybe after dat she come back ask u to marry her u oso wun noe.
coffeeortea SG indeed, your metabolism slows down.. and once u eat something.. u will gain weight more quickly than usual
Yunhaier SG You thought that the reason was because of your weight. It was an assumption based on how inferior you felt when you spoke about your size. The automatic thought immediately sprung up, telling you that it must be your weight, for if it isn't, why would she reject my affection? Have you ever thought of the fact that what she was saying may be true? Everything was too hasty... the emotions, the advancement, the chase and such? PLUS... she's probably a woman who doesn't know how to handle rejecting-of-somebody? If you were to scroll through some previous AA cases, you will uncover similar cases like yours - being avoided after confession. *** Your topic isn't about rejection; it's about your tender self worth being wounded once again. If losing weight is needed to restore your confidence and esteem, by all means, just do it. It doesn't only improve your psychological state, it keeps you healthy as well. You must first understand the fundemantal of self Love before you can extend this outside of yourself. It's difficult to love somebody without having the same love for yourself - somewhat like a preacher who doesn't do what he preaches. Love comes from within and radiate outwardly and not leech Love outwardly and try to fill voids in your inner realm. Cheers
thetwotheories SG go for a diet, improve yourself. forget her. find your other half, get a better life
azurewaves SG tell me that isnt real but no seriously, if ur yandao at least u get 2% more of the girls to choose from
cloud00 SG Originally posted by Yunhaier: You thought that the reason was because of your weight. It was an assumption based on how inferior you felt when you spoke about your size. The automatic thought immediately sprung up, telling you that it must be your weight, for if it isn't, why would she reject my affection? Have you ever thought of the fact that what she was saying may be true? Everything was too hasty... the emotions, the advancement, the chase and such? PLUS... she's probably a woman who doesn't know how to handle rejecting-of-somebody? If you were to scroll through some previous AA cases, you will uncover similar cases like yours - being avoided after confession. *** Your topic isn't about rejection; it's about your tender self worth being wounded once again. If losing weight is needed to restore your confidence and esteem, by all means, just do it. It doesn't only improve your psychological state, it keeps you healthy as well. You must first understand the fundemantal of self Love before you can extend this outside of yourself. It's difficult to love somebody without having the same love for yourself - somewhat like a preacher who doesn't do what he preaches. [b]Love comes from within and radiate outwardly and not leech Love outwardly and try to fill voids in your inner realm. Cheers [/b]Tnks everyone for the advice especially Yunhaier even though i dun really understand wat the last sentence means .... i guess i'll still take a step at a time ... my first step is still trying to make myself slim~
Devil1976 SG If weight is a serious problem and she's a lousy girl, I bet you wouldn't have even got anywhere near as her friend in the 1st place... RESPECT your friend's decision. Don't ever try to hurt someone without really knowing why you're doing so. You'll never really know when you might just regret your decision...?
Yunhaier SG 'Love comes from within and radiate outwardly and not leech Love outwardly and try to fill voids in your inner realm' When we love someone naturally: the love comes from our soul, in which it will creates this familar intense feeling we called Love. Sometimes, we unconsciously reverse this process: we have certain voids in our soul and we made used of love to fill in those gaps. One has to understand that Self Love is paramount to any relationship is because people with inferiority complex would naturally see themselves as unlovable and unworthy. Therefore having a relationship fills in those gaps - it creates this transitory illusion that they are now lovable. Therefore, what my last sentence meant was: when you are equipped with Self Love, you are likely to fall under the former paragraph and not the latter. Cheers
sportsmandom SG Young man...know a girl for a while and start talking a bove loving her? do you know what is love? yours is lust and not love.....wake up and get on with life.....
