Perhaps for your case, a professional counsellor would've been
better able to help your friend. And being young yourself, you
didn't know better. Now that we're older, perhaps the best advice
we can give Pup is to ask him to refer the case to a
counsellor.
Your friend has probably allowed herself to go into a downward
spiral. Sometimes where family is concerned, the scars run very
deep. They can even be scarred for life. When the closest people
who profess to love you can't even protect you, then who in the
world will be able to give you the support you need? Apart from
your very young friends, who probably don't know any better?
Believe me, I know this, & up till now, I've been very scarred,
for reasons which I won't delve into here, because the problem is
my own, & I've handled it as best as I can. I wish, during my
younger days, someone had come to my aid too. Somebody who's had
better training to be able to give me the proper guidance I
need.
The pain was unbearable, & it made me go off the rails. The
reason I'm so passionate about helping this kid, is because I went
through it myself! The only difference is, I come from a relatively
privileged background, & STILL, the scars ran so deep. What
more somebody who has a dad physically abusing his mother & the
rest of the family?
True, I picked myself up in the end, & I made good, but how
many success stories have we heard, Pink Jie? Too many teenagers
have fallen into this detrimental cycle, Not realising that at the
end of it all, the people they're hurting the most is
themselves.
I'm Not saying that you're unkind. But we can't use 1 paddle to
knock off 1 whole boatload of people. Ultimately, we may Not even
be successful in helping this kid. But at the end of the day, if I
can tell myself, I've tried my best, & I've reached out in my
own way, then I wen xin wu kui...
*Hugs* No hard feelings. I know you're Not the heartless kind. It's
just that, we can't use 1 e.g. to sweep everyone into the same
category.
FeowFeow
