Originally posted by Ray87:
[b]hey laosu, after reading your post, i was sad but puzzled at the
same time. Why do people have to face those unfortunate events in
their life? I had my share of problems in secondary school, but
most turn out to have positive effects on myself. - Fortunate or unfortunate events are programmed to
our life till the end so that we can learn from it. One thing I can
tell you for sure is, whether it's good or bad events, ultimately
it's how you want the ending to be. You've said that it turn out
most to have a positive effect on you is because you want it to
turn out positively. Imagine if you met with an unfortunate event
and you just let yourself sink deeper into depression, will it
inflict a positive effect on you? I guess not.
Why did you choose to isolate yourself from your peers during your
secondary school days? Your secondary school experience would have
been much more memorable with them, provided that you have handled
your friendship well.
In areas of your studies, you have shown that you are capable of
doing well in your studies. But why didn't you put enough efforts
into your studies before you were demoted to the normal stream?
- Sorry, this is a question that till
now I still can't offer an explaination. Not that I don't want to.
But that's the past and I can't turn back the clock so no point
dwelling over it. You might suggest that Im still able to upgrade
myself now and Yes I do agree with you but till now I've yet
discover anything that I want to study in. Ok, I do have a dream
but it's a dream that is far beyond my reach due to family
objection.
I do not have the intention to make you feel bad or anything, im
writing this because i feel that its really a pity that your life
have turned this way. I felt that things could have turned out much
better if you had done certain things back then. - Haha, is ok, nothing about my past can make me
feel bad now and I believe your good intentions when writing all
these. Thinking back now, I have no regrets to my own history. I'm
proud of who I am now. I don't deny that things might have turn out
much better if I had done certain things back then but then I won't
be who I am now. I could probably be another person busy earning
money and forgot about feelings altogether. I might be even worse
that who I am in the past and become worse due to the harsh reality
of the working society. I will never see myself as a loser now even
though I might not have achieve much but for the fact that I've
survived it, nothing much can put me down now unlike for "some
people" who love to call others loser, I pity them.[/b]
I won't deny the fact that I might have a totally different life
experience if I learn to handle my friendship well and study well
then. But as who I am now, I think back and I don't really
regret.
First of all, if I had learn to handle the friendship well then, is
that really friendship or again for the sake of studies and blah
blah blah? I don't think any of them ever treated me as friend
either. Not that I'm still sore about it now but I do admit that
I'm sore at that moment and why let myself be make used of?
There's a lot of things in life we could have avoided and lead a
more comfortable life. Now I'm already 28, in a way I do appreciate
the fact that I've been through all that and survived. Unlike what
I won't deny the fact that I might have a totally different life
experience if I learn to handle my friendship well and study well
then. But as who I am now, I think back and I don't really
regret.
First of all, if I had learn to handle the friendship well then, is
that really friendship or again for the sake of studies and blah
blah blah? I don't think any of them ever treated me as friend
either. Not that I'm still sore about it now but I do admit that
I'm sore at that moment and why let myself be make used of?
There's a lot of things in life we could have avoided and lead a
more comfortable life. Now I'm already 28, in a way I do appreciate
the fact that I've been through all that and survived. Unlike what
Angelo09 comment about people like us being losers. I don't see it
that way. I've been through it and I survive. So what if I'm just
an O Level grad? So what if I've isolate myself before? At least
I've survived it and learn and from my past experience I'm willing
to share the story with others who is going through it and set
myself a good example for them to learn to be strong.
I may not earn $3-4K per month but I earn a honest living. With all
the feelings that I've deprived myself from last time, I'm full of
it now and in my earnest to help people to cope with it and find
back the feelings that they lost.
