Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Sometimes, simply just love itself isn't enough to
sustain a relationship. It produce the driving force, the reason
for existence, but ultimately, how you want to decide for your own
relationship depends largely on what you want to do with them...
with love being the fuel of your vehicle.
Long distance relationship can be difficult, but until you submerge
yourself into it, you will not know the full blow of this emotional
fatigue that leeches you daily.
You are feeling it now.
You are currently being exposed to these blast of problems that
burns your heart and mind like a furnace. And no matter how
altruistic one can be in Love, we are still govern by rudimentary
laws in Love... which forcefully bring us back to reality despite
granted heavenly wings by Love. We cannot think that Love itself is
capable of making miracles, without understanding that this miracle
can only be perform through a human medium... that's through our
own freewill and decision.
This wanting to take care of her for the rest of your life is an
eventual goal and because it is a distant goal, it belongs to
utopia for now. Learn to take small steps and watch those steps you
are taking. [b]There is
no point planning for a distance future WITHOUT clearing your path
to ALLOW you the CONDITION that is conducive for this future to be
reachable.
You stack your mess like a pile of misplaced papers. Be patient and
work gradually through empathy and constant communication - that
this relationship is BORN difficult and therefore, what you two are
experiencing is exactly the thorns that were foreseen even before
the birth of this BGR.
If you opt for a difficult relationship, the worst that could ever
happen to you is to lose faith and courage. If you were to get
discourage from the pile of misplaced paper, waiting for you to
organise them - think about your girlfriend, who probably has MORE
than just a pile of misplaced papers on her work desk.
ENCOURAGE each other to march forward. If this relationship should
fall, it shouldn't be that of your doings or your will be cursed
with regrets that cannot be dispelled.
P.S: There are times in life
where we have to take lead. If we do not demonstrate strength in
crisis, the weaker ones will surely crumble. 
Cheers [/b]
I"m more than willing to spend my entire life walking with her
through all these and I'll never give up. What I'm afraid of is
that she will one day wan to end this relationship due to all these
stress.
I'm not being defensive but I guess I know her well enough. She's
one who put her family ahead of anyone else and right now I'm in
second place and I know she's still hanging on to this relationship
cause she wanted to make this relationship work too. But her
current situation is simply just giving her too much pressure and
honestly sometime I'm not helping much.
My b'day falls on early March and she knew how much I wish that she
can come to Singapore on that day. Recently I told her it's ok if
she can't come, I can go over instead if she's ok with it. I guess
this suggestion doesn't help much. She starts to have this idea
that she's not a good gf to me and I have to be always the one
sacrificing and the one making the effort to see that things goes
smoothly between us without having to disrupt her. I honestly don't
mind doing all that for her. I strongly believe that the current
situation won't last forever and her dad will get well and get
normal again. Even if it takes years, I'm still willing to do all
that for her.
