Borderline
Personality Disorder (BPD)
When you are in
the relationship with her
do the following
happen?
Do you find yourself concealing what you think or feel because
you're afraid of the other person's reaction or because it just
doesn't seem worth the horrible fight or hurt feelings that will
follow?
Do you feel that anything you say or do will be twisted and
used against you? Are you blamed and criticized for everything
wrong in the relationship-even when it makes no logical
sense?
Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational
rages, alternating with periods when the other person acts
perfectly normal and loving? Does no one believe you when you
explain that this is going on?
Do you feel like you're the victim of emotional blackmail?
Are you accused of doing things you never did and saying things you
never said? Do you feel misunderstood a great deal of the time, and
when you try to explain do you find that the other person doesn't
believe you?
Are you constantly being put down? When you try to leave the
relationship does the other person try to prevent you from leaving
in a variety of ways (anything from declarations of love and
promises to change to implicit or explicit threats)?
Do you have a hard time planning anything (social engagements,
etc.) because of the other person's moodiness, impulsiveness, or
unpredictability?
Indicators of
BPD
Feel abandoned at the slightest provocation
Have extreme moodiness that cycles very quickly (in minutes
or hours)
Have difficulty managing their emotions
Feel emotions so intensely that it's difficult to put others'
needs-even those of their own children-ahead of their own
Feel distrustful and suspicious a great deal of the
time
Feel anxious or irritable a great deal of the time
Feel empty or like they have no self a great deal of the time
Feel ignored when they are not the focus of attention
Alternately want to be close to others, then distance
themselves
(Examples include picking fights when things are going well or
alternately ending relationships and then trying to get back
together.)
Alternate between idealizing people and devaluing them
Cut people out of their life over issues that seem trivial or
overblown
For the more
severe cases
Act impulsively in ways that are potentially self-damaging, such as
spending too much, engaging in dangerous sex, fighting, gambling,
abusing drugs or alcohol, reckless driving, shoplifting, or
disordered eating
Mutilate themselves-for example, purposely cutting or burning their
skin
Threaten to kill themselves-or make actual suicide attempts
Physically abuse others, such as slapping, kicking, and scratching
them
If she display a lot of these symptoms, it is better for
you to persuade her to seek professional help before it becomes
more severe.
Link for you to find out more :
http://www.bpdcentral.com/resources/basics/main.shtml
