Originally posted by HougangBoy:
I have hear most of the comment that most of you mention.
Comment such as...
1) Im a selfish person
2) Im too emotional...i should be rational
3) I should go back to my wife
4) I dont know that gal well
All these comments are all direct to choosing my wife.
Very minor, would tell me to choose the one who i really like now.
Hence i very confuse as to the importance of love over
responsibility.
I wanted to ask you questions like,
"You don't love your wife anymore?" Because you label her as your
responsibility or "Will you encourage your children to cheat next
time?" but I think these questions will be irrelevant because I am
somewhat convinced that you'll choose your love.
It's Ok. Divorce cases are always on the rise. Adultery becomes a
norm in this society. I have seen married man dating married woman
in my office too. It became so common that noone raised their
eyebrows anymore. So, I guess how society sees you is not much of a
concern. What matters most to you now, I feel, is to find your true
love and happiness (which we most likely can guess who will that
be).
I am sure you know that courtship and living together is a totally
different experience. I know of some couples who broke up after
co-habitation and some who got married after that. Living together
will reveal the little details of one another.
It's harder for girls to let go of relationships because we are
more emotional. Just wondering if your love will throw away all
emotional baggages of her previous marriage and sleep peacefully
beside you, not thinking about him.
It's humans nature to look for greener pastures once their current
situation seems boring, uninteresting or dull. However, once they
tasted the 'greener pastures', they may think the previous pastures
are better. I was trying to say that we tend to take our partner
for granted and not count our blessings.
It's a risk you're taking. Whatever your decision maybe, I
sincerely hope you won't regret it in future. All of us want
happiness.
Cheers!
