Whats Wrong With Me

ReliverX SG

Hmm...
I think I more on the offensive side, because I'm quite sensitive to words.
Besides, she doesn't know those words could made me think this way.
She tells me she's not interested in other guys, just going out with them wasn't anything but as a friend. This i understood. But i never told her that i didn't like her going out with other guys.

I don't think she's rebelling. She doesn't understand the relationship well because its still early and young. She's not that experiance relationships and i expect too much.

Just worried. Because, she's a soft and kind person,I was afraid of things to happen to her. thanks Devil.
For the explanation and enlightenment.

ReliverX SG

I did try clarifying things,
She says she jealous of the time i went out with a gal alone.
The time she went out with other guys because She thought i didn't mind, which was my own doing because i told her i don mind at first.

Simply put I expect too much and she's doesn't really know whats going on.
My bad.

Clear things out, but i still didn't tell her i don want her to go out with guys alone, cause.. its her rights. and I'm in the wrong...

ReliverX SG

Hmmm,
She forgets that this weekend I had a date with her,
And right in front of me she was going to reply, the guy who msg her that she was going to meet him for club some activities.

I was quite hurt then, i was deciding whether to remind her, on the spot.
then i just blurted out that "this is so sad, you forgot about what day that day was."

Man It hurts, from the afternoon till now.
is this right ?

R3SsH|n SG

hoho brother...don't underestimate the power of the stars above...

R3SsH|n SG

well...as the cliche goes...these are just some test to your relationship...
anyways you all are just 17-18 years old...you have loads of time with you...

so my advice is...

JUST LOVE AND BE LOVED AND HAVE FUN LOVING

if it really doesn't work out or both of you need some spaces between each other...give it to each other...you cannot stick to each other like glue...you will get sick of it...

Mr. Green

black.S SG

just dump her la,a relationship shld b happy but seems like this relationship makes u so headache and jealous,wats the point of continue,ur character and her character just dun suit both of u.Sensitive guys lik u shldnt find girls like her,so my verdict juts dump her and find a new one loh or remain single lik me loh.I just sick of BGR!

ReliverX SG

Originally posted by R3SsH|n:
well...as the cliche goes...these are just some test to your relationship...
anyways you all are just 17-18 years old...you have loads of time with you...

so my advice is...

[b]JUST LOVE AND BE LOVED AND HAVE FUN LOVING

if it really doesn't work out or both of you need some spaces between each other...give it to each other...you cannot stick to each other like glue...you will get sick of it...

Mr. Green [/b]

Hmm stick to each other like glue ? can you define, cause its alittle broad in the term.

Is it so easy to forget what I tell her, and so easy to accept someone's invitation?

ReliverX SG

A relationship is not about being just plain happy,
All the ups and downs of the relationship counts.
Thus making the couple closer.
Character wise, we are normal.
Its just that I tend to be more sensitive when it comes to commitment.
I more of a committed guy.

And Regarding Dumping her, I would never.
A good relationship isn't something that comes by that easily.
I just wanna make things out right.
And finding a new one won't work.
If u can't solve the problem within, a change in the other might not help.

R3SsH|n SG

its like you have to meet each other everyday...whether it is go out for dinner...or just see each other...sometimes it gets a little tiring to do that...maybe your gf is feeling a little uncomfortable always have to stick with you...she might have her own friends...she needs her time oso...

if u don't see her for sometime...she will start missing u ba...so when u ask her out...it will be more exciting for her...

a relationship is like flying a kite...you have to know when to release the string and when to pul itl...its a balance...

ReliverX SG

True...
I'm always encouraging her to go out with her friends...
Her Frens Don always seem to go out.

Maybe I meet her too often. Thanks man..

R3SsH|n SG

yea...i speak like a real expert in this...
Rolling Eyes

ReliverX SG

True.

Still I'm still sad about what happen.
tell me is it that easy to forget a date from your love one,
and so easy to accept anothers?

And that day was a so special day.

mumof2 SG

It sounds like she is very much a sociable young lady. You should try to socialize with other girls too to test her out and in case this relationship didn't work, you have other choices. Sigh...Hope this helps...

ReliverX SG

Hmm thanks, but i think we got each others prob settle out.
Seems, that she was expecting me to do somethings, i was expecting her to do the same thing.

So ends up, niether goes any where..
thanks guys for ur advices...

kevinaldinho SG

theres nothing wrong with u bro, i guess u guys mus talk abt this issues heart to heart n really make sure tht its not noactiontalkonly..yeah, aniwaes u guys mus noe where to draw the line to give each other their own space, dun ever doubt her love too, i did once and it has very devastating effects Crying or Very sad
cheers n tke cre

falling_stars SG

Well said!!

Guess your probably more mature than your GF in some ways...
But then again balance is impt like they all have said...
Sometimes one jux cant be gripping so tight for so long... gona let go for some moments to relax and release all the tension....

Your concern for her was good though... but try giving her more space as well... maybe once in a while don't give her so much concern and see if she complain and feel that you dun care so much for her... Then u might know how much space u still have in her heart...

But again dun neglect her too much else she might think you have another gal or will let another guy have a chance

starblue SG

wad's with the title? man, there is nothing wrong with you, dun go thinking that way. it is natural that u will feel upset in this kinda situation, dun feel bad about it.

first thing, u have to let ur gal know wad u are feeling. dun think that it is petty of u to feel that way, cos u are entitled to it. so let her know. let her know you expect somethings from her as your gf. in a r/s it is ok to let your partner know what u need from her.

and in return, give her what she needs.

ReliverX SG

Its ok to do that ? I mean wanting something from her doesn't seem right for me. lol... I dunno why but it just don't...

She complains if i give her a cold shoulder for awhile.
Well about giving another guy chance, it happens to often.
I mean her friends - Guy side, mostly are all her rejects and they never give up. She's friendly and cheerful nice gal, so she always nice to everyone ya know ?

Sometimes it edges me alittle, though I'm ok with that.
I just don't like a particular guy. haha...
ABout Freedom, I gave her total freedom, too much ?

thanks, man. But I never doubt her love.
Again about personal Space I gave her total...

Anyway Thanks guys....
It niec to have u guys reply.

ReliverX SG

I mean socialising she doesn't mind that but going out with them alone she gets edgy

It might be helpful thanks...

Oyathatsme SG

In the midst in a relationship, whenever this kinda feeling/problem arises, the choice is yours. You don't build a relationship. You buy a relationship. It's like a shirt when you are searching in a grocery store. You look for the best that is suited to your needs. Compare.

You are a man. A women have to give and take into what you want. Of course the man does too unless you are sure that she's interested into you.

3/4 the posters here that give you advice that are totally bullshit. Wat you posted, i doubt her interest level towards you are pretty high.
The problem lies in you my friend, you seem like a nice guy who gives in everything to her needs! Which girls need a guy who's paying for her, making the first moves, whispering sweet nothings to her ears. I doubt you have the capability to dump her and find someone who's level of interest is higher.

Some of the posters here that give you advice that are totally bullshit. That's why 90% of the topics posted in AA most of the guys comes first being dumped.

Whenever she give you the red flags, lying/cheating on you. Move on with your life. She don't deserve your care and concern. Come on there are plenty of girls out there.

You deserve someone better. In my humble opinion, your girlfriend doesn't fit into my standards. I would just tell her straight in the face I want out this relationship out.

You are acting like a girl in this relationship.

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