Is he really into me?

last SG · 2005-09-19T22:32:01+00:00

Hmm...I dunno what your guy is like, but even if he is in NS, he shudnt neglect you during weekends when he book out...my guy is in NS too, but when he book...

Devil1976 SG

Is he serving NS now? Or just ended serving NS?

macambagus SG

You are already hurting yourself. He doesn't seemt o appreciate you...wonder why is it hard to let go.

There is light at the end of another tunnel...try and find it....your days of hopeless waiting and crying will soon be over.

babyreyes SG

serving now...

hmmx...

browniebaobao SG

On thing I can never understand about man/guys Games and Balls can take up half or even more percentage of their life.

What I do is, when he's not with me, or when he's playing game, I will let him have all his time to play.. fair enough.... coz he has time for u, time for himself too. Wink

shade343 SG

Best is a breakup bah.

drx SG

u still love him.
if your love is over you will not care about him at all.

Just a question
If one day his family and you are in danger.
and he save his family only but could not save you.
Will you blame him?

KopiKia SG

I wouldn’t suggest a break up, but I would ask you to think about your future. Are you willing to spend the rest of your life like this? Because this is how he is, his character is like that. He is the passive kinda guy, kinda selfish too, correct me if i am wrong. If you love him, which i think you are, then you should change your entire lifestyle for him, no choice. But, if you think its not worth the change, then move on and look for someone else who is more suitable to your lifestyle.

Devil1976 SG

How long have you been with him before he started his NS?

How long have he served his NS? Is he kinda restricted in his 'out of camp' time?

As much as I know you would wish for him to spend more time with you, understand that his parents could be missing their son over this period of time too...?

The main issue now of my concern would be... Are both of you 'compatible' in terms of life style? He's quiet and don't like crowds.. You're one who's scared of being bored to death... He like games and you don't...?

3 years.. Haven't you already known him well enough to have discovered all that? Or have he done some thing(s) recently which particularly pissed you off? Or just your own 'change of thoughts'...? That you don't really like this kind of life-style with him...?

To be STRAIGHT FRANK with you, I won't really see it as a plain 'wrong' to start realising things this way.. Somehow rather than denying such facts, it might just to review over things to see what you really want...?

babyreyes SG

Devil1976 SG

I see you have quite alot of ISSUES?

When things don't 'fit in', they probably won't just 'go away' in time... Often not?

Your relationship is SLOWING DOWN... Never mind if you're miserable 1st or he's cold to ya 1st... The FACT IS "you're feeling miserable and he's cold to you".... And that certainly doesn't look like a good sign...?

Your relationship also shows sign of WEAK TRUST... WEAK COMMITMENT. It's often pulled into revolving around his family which you simply can't get along with... And his life-style and yours... Though you knew it's different yet you carried on...? But that's still not that bad because more often then not.. Women are more willing to 'try out' to see how things go...?

All in all, your relationship's in BAD SHAPE and POOR FOUNDATION... TIME is DEFINITELY AGAINST IT at this rate...

What do you suggest you should do next?

Though this might just sour the relationship even further, I personally thinks that it's about TIME for you to LET HIM KNOW HOW BAD things REALLY ARE NOW... That is IF you even BOTHER TO REVIVE this relationship...? Because even if you just let this thing row on, it'll probably just SINK TO ITS BOTTOM anyhow...?

What are both your star signs btw?

babyreyes SG

he doesnt see those problems as a problem. If i dont click with his family , then dont click lors. If i dont sms or call him, its ok de. Coz he nothign to say to me oso. Then since he nothign to say to me, yet he expects me to kinda know his problems. How am i to know if he doesnt tell me?And i have repeating things to him over n over again.

=/ im outta my wits.

aries n gemini

Devil1976 SG

He's an aries and you're a gemini...?

Tier SG

Hey gemini and aries meant to be an energetic and happening couple. well match! I used to be addicted to the sims game as well haha! I guess he is just lazy and slack, and wouldnt be bother to make effort bah. young boys still doesnt know whats important in their life, they just wanna relax and slack, he doesnt think its important to give more attention to a girl. especially during ns would be the most laziest period of time. have a good talk with him! if he think you are very important to him, he will change alittle for you. one of my friend used to have the same problem, his bf gemini and she is aries. Guys just like to keep to themselves so much. will things get better after he work in the society?

Actually I think he may be thinking he is very useless to make you so miserable like you said, which make him very helpless and confused on how to make you happy.

babyreyes SG

Im aries....he gem...

Im the kind who gets bored easily de. he doesnt.

haiya...... now i felt nothign for him except anger disappointment and sian! haix

Eiizumi SG

Love is mutual and should be reciprocal. Why don't you start first?

Start cheering him up! Make him forget about the stupid things in NS and other heck of life.

Once he's happy, he'll make you happy in return (I hope)

(^_^)

Eiizumi SG

NS can be the lowest point of a guy’s life.

babyreyes SG

My close frens are in NS too....They are able to take things at stride. Luff things at the end of the day. They are very positive.

But i dont understand why my guy feels tat ns is a torture lors.

Come on. He is not hte only one suffering lors.

I even have a fren who purposely chao keng all these. hais.

Devil1976 SG

Sucky... What I'm afraid of... Anyway....

Though he's not those TOTALLY OUTGOING type... He can be 'cultivated' for a more 'outward bound' life-style... Not something to the EXTREMES... But pubbing and such should be quite ok... He just needs a little 'warming up' and persuading in the right way... Try not to reprimand him but instead to let him know how ya feel (as in you wish he could spend more time doing ROMANTIC things together...) etc. He can be quite an understanding and romantic guy by nature. WORK on that.

And DO NOT express ANGER and SUCH in his face unless it is REALLY NECESSARY... Especially of smaller matters.. Getting him 'SWITCHED OFF' would simply make him turn himself away from you and whatever you're hoping for...? Wink

Devil1976 SG

Oh.. To add.. It's quite IMPORTANT to show that you're a CARING gf who can be understanding him at least to an extent..? It'll HELP to go a LONG WAY in making a BIG DIFFERENCE.... Good luck! Wink

babyreyes SG

He knows there are problems. There are certain things tat we both feel tat he could compromise a little. But he said he didnt want to.

I told him tat he is not romantic. He used to shower me with gifts and flowers. After that he doesnt, he said tat he is the kind who doesnt do such things one. And i came to realise tat it was his frens or mine who kinda prompted him to do such things. Oh well. He doesnt buy me any more gifts le. He just told me to pick watever i like. Show him the receipt.

He doesnt call or sms me unless theres a nd like wat time to meet. We just dont communicate well. Im tired of calling him all the time,u know. For hte past 3 yrs, ive been hte one calling him or initiating meetings. Most of hte time i call him, he either watching tv or playing his online games or soccer games. Then he will be in a hurry to put down the phone. Then subsequently i dont feel like calling him anymore.

He just said he has nothing to say to me. Ok fine. If he doesnt have things to say to me, he could listen rite? I dont seem to share my problems with him anymore. Coz basically if he is so engrossed with his tv n games, i find it hard talking to him.

When im sick, he just told me to see a doc. After tat, he didnt follow up on whether i got well nots. Sometimes i realise my frens love me more. haix.

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