Should I Ask Her?

kuckuc SG

Your post meant something to me. After reading some other posts, I've decided to not ask her, trying to be a gentlemen & see what happens in the future... heh.

I'm already single for 20+ years, I can still wait.

But heart so pain, need to control & not to let my feeling to get over me.

How I wish this feeling can dissipate away at this moment. Embarassed

105090 SG

well.. if ppl dun talk bout their BF, we may not even know if she have anot..

choco B SG

Don't ask if you "have the chance to be with her"

Instead, you ought to get her to talk about her relationship, the current status, is she happy, is he nice to her, etc.

Then you will have a better idea of your next move

kuckuc SG

Seriously I wanted to ask that, but I don't know how to initiate the topic... sometimes she just feel like do not want to mention about it.

I got feedback from female friends that when one fancy you, he/she wouldn't want to talk about their gf/bf in front of you, coz he/she fear it might spoil the r/s.

Is that true? Come to think of it... hmm, maybe.

drx SG

There is another reason that girls refuse to talk about their bf.
Just imagine your gf and you went out for 8 hrs liao, finally got some free time to go out with friends, will you still want to talk about your gf?

stop thinking about her only lar...

U mean she is the only girl in your life?

Devil1976 SG

Cool

Sekundes SG

Frabkly speaking,
Let me help you out a little.

Ur relationship i have seen and experiance it before once.
Anyway,

Here a question to help you out.

How much do you know about her to make her your lady?

smudgey SG

Well My view is. If you really like her, ask. she is attached but she is not married.

But bear in mind:

Idea You could very well lose her as a friend
Idea Her bf may very well hate you and find trouble with you,
Idea If you two do work out, can you ever trust her alone with any guy?

Ask yourself do you really want to be with her or are you just wanting to prove something???

kuckuc SG

I'm not sure how much I know about her, but get to know about herself, family & friends (bits & pieces la...) after 2 months+ of chit chatting.

This till now I'm not even sure myself, perhaps I'm trying to get a gf for the sake of loneliness...

So, I need time to cool down myself to think carefully. It's best to stay as a good friend at the moment to get to know each other more. Wink

Sekundes SG

^^, Hope it clears thigns up a little. You do stand a decent chance,

Yet You have to time the question of asking her to be your gf, if even though she break up with her Bf, u have to wait for a while.

Good luck man..

reverant_ SG

too easy … drug her drink and screw her …

curiousOrange SG

Hello Kuc

I was in the same situation once. I was in love with a malay lady who was attached.

So I went up to her and told her.

She said that her family will definitely be unable to accept her dating someone of another race and she also said that her boyfriend has done nothing wrong and don't deserve that kind of treatment.

So its a no but guess what...when I think about it now, I felt very happy and relieved that I told her.

Why? Because I finally found some balls to do something I want to do...

Why cant you do the same?

Imagine tomorrow is the end of the world, you reflect on your life and realize that you still dont know the answers just because you have no courage to askhow would you feel?

I read your postsI can see that you want to shake off this burden you have been carrying all this while. Now is the time to find some balls to do it.

When you are afraid, your fear will start throwing all sorts of negative images into your mind Questions like:

If its a yeswhat if someday she pulls the same trick on me?
So what? If shit happensyou take it like a man and you move on. At least you tried, there are no regrets.

Will she be willing to stick around and remain friends? Will things be back to normal if she rejects me?
Who cares? You want her as a lover, not a friend. Be true to your feelings and be prepared to walk away if you dont get the answer you want. Dont settle.

drx SG

reverant_

haha nice suggestion but there is one big problem

you are not in the 80s anymore.

Sex is no longer able to force someone who do not like you to stay with you.

If she scream rape, your backside will feel the pain.

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