Mao Mao,
I'm trying to be objective, so please don't take it that I'm siding
with your ex, ok? : ) From what I see, she feels that she needs her
space after the breakup. It's only been 2 months, Not a long time
has passed.
My ex couldn't understand it when I didn't want to meet him or have
contact with him after we broke up, because I just felt we needed
time & space to pick up the pieces & continue with our new
lives without each other. Different people need different amount of
time to close a chapter & start a new 1.
It was evident that my ex hadn't gotten over our split when he got
nasty after he learnt I was seeing someone else. Mind you, that was
quite awhile after we'd split up! He couldn't understand that I was
Not his to control anymore, & it was my life to lead. I
couldn't simply stay stagnant for someone who hurt me more than
could be imagined. Later on, of course, I found out the horrible
things he'd been saying about me behind my back, twisting facts to
appear the Victim. Perhaps you didn't hurt your ex, & you
didn't do the mean things my ex did, but I think the need for space
& time may be similar to my circumstances at that time.
I think there's a lack of understanding on both sides, that's all.
It's understandable when emotions are still raw. Perhaps your mum
doesn't remember the agony of a breakup, since she's been married
thus many years. It's a lesson to me to always remember it, so I
can help others with a different perspective. And a lesson to me to
cherish whatever I have now.
FeowFeow
