Is a guy who used verbal abuse on his gf, worth holding on?

last SG · 2005-08-13T19:04:59+00:00

HAHHA wa so kiang arz ... well errr maybe u like our nice , big and sharp tail? btw virgo is wad element ?

Sith_Darth_vader SG

i feel like e guy has already found someone new.

megatron SG

Well said!!

SnowFlag SG

yeah, it is hard to change the leopard’s spot. u hv to decide whether u r ok with his behaviour in the long run.

Fatum SG

you know what's the keyword in your narrative, sweetevil ? it's "five years " ...... we humans have a tendency to cling on to the unplesant present because we fear the unknown outside .... sorry if this comes off harsh, but the only reason you're still holding onto such an abusive jerk is because he is a "known" quality, which is preferable to the great unknown of singlehood eh ? .... i'm sure you've heard the german anecdote of the frog who was put into a pot of water and was slowly boiled to death eh ? ... just let go girl ... it's not about you loving him here ... it's about you being afraid to let go ! .... deep down inside, you probably do want to get out of this too, don't you ? ....

Just take the leap ... singapore doesn't suffer from such a paucity of nice, decent guys that you won't be able to find your true soul mate .... Best wishes ...

the Bear SG

the word “abuse” should never turn up in any relationship..

BadzMaro SG

Verbal abuse is peanuts compare to physical abuse. Used to have this friend of mine who beat the shit out of his gf. Make her all blue black on the eye. She is so damn pretty somemore... made me feel pissed off. But what can i do ? its thier problem ma.. had to kick them outta the car when they fighting behind my car.. to cut the story short... my friend end up fighting with me. I beat the shit out of the guy but in the end i kena blame by the gf. holy shit man... talk about f*ked up! Evil or Very Mad

megatron SG

Damn well said!! Girls, pay attention!!

black_avarice SG

Wa u sibei suey man... my heart goes out 2 u... why are they in ya car n e way?

nuchio SG

your bf is insecure... and it is not because of you.

he will still be insecure even if h is with another woman less worthy of him or isnt the least pretty.

this is his problem by the way and have absolutely nothing to do with you. having said that ...

DO YOU REALLY WANT TO CARRY ON LIKE THIS WITH HIM?

your problem - you hold onto the past .. and what you believe are the right qualities.

people change, like you said. so you should review the relationship in question. maybe it is time for things to change too.

question - how will you feel if he continue with his ways?

will you still be able to hold your head up high as a woman?

can you live like that with him?

if not, it is time to let go and move on.

nuchio SG

surely her friends want the best for her Rolling Eyes

drx SG

Is he your first bf?
if not how many bf did u have before him?

beagle SG

using vulgarities is due to the way he is, it doesn't matter if its his gf he's talking to, or his parents he's talking to, if he's used to using it, it doesn't make a difference to him. However, he SHOULD try to refrain from using them, and MAKE a point to try. if he's not doing that, then its not really tat great.

Try talking out with him, settle this together, tell him that u're sick and tired of him treating u this way, and if things don't change, you'll have no choice but to find someone else better.

beagle SG

yeah, but they want looks, thats not really what u mean by "looking out for her"

sweetevil SG

He is my third and longest boyfriend by far. Anyway, he just called to apologize for the mistakes he had made and talked to me really nicely. I don't know what else to say to him because my feelings are already numbed. Sometimes, I think that I really am too soft hearted. no? I know he still loves me, but why the verbal abuse? Makes me wonder.. because if you really love the girl and afraid to lose her, you will refrain from doing that to hurt her right? Maybe I have not retaliated perhaps thats why he took it for granted time and time again since I always keep forgiving him. Whenever i argued with him on the slightest thing till one point I actually questioned myself if we're still loving. No doubt that we're still going on strong but perhaps its just happens that he's on one of his foul moods and said things without sparing a thought for me.

SinGaporGuy SG

WEll.. LEtting go might make u happier.. What Goes Ard comes around.. Mr. Green

drx SG

Just as I had suspected.

Guys tends to treat their first gf as the most impt person in their life.

Do you still remember your first bf ? Guess not .

He loves u alot and he wants to be with you but he has a problem with his words. His stress level is quite high and I believe that one of the possible reason may be his ns.

During ns a guy had to be stay in the camp till weekend then he is allowed to go back home. At times he may have bring back some stress from camp that he may not know it himself. He is afarid of losing you and this fear is growing day by day.

Imagine if u are lock in a place and only weekends you are allowed only 24 hours to see your family. Will u be afarid that your bf will run to another girl while u were away in the place? Imagine his friend keep saying that you are not worthy of him and asked him to leave you will you be happy while you are inside the place?

Deep in your heart you love him alot that is why it is stopping u from leaving him. Sometimes is better to quarrel and let things out then keep it in your heart. Have seen so many couples who quarrel so much but still end up together and get married.

He quarrel with you cos he care, if one day he stops quarrling and just ignore you, that is the day when all will end.,

sweetevil SG

He is a third sergeant and he gets to book out everyday at 5.30pm. Recently, he has been training for Army Half Marathon which is coming up in September. He trains and runs everyday and need not go back to camp for the time being. Even If he doesnt gets to book out everyday and only can meet me once a week when he was still a recruit(or whatever you call that), I was more than happy and contented. I can say that I'm pretty understanding, which not many girls with boyfriends in the Army is able to do that.

chunyong SG

the longer u drag the more u dun wanna let go, the more u dun wanna let go, the more u will suffer his abuse, the more u suffer his abuse the more u will feel miserable….

Quinsy SG

NO.

nOrmalbOi SG

Thanks dude.

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