Originally posted by fairyprincess:
my bf and i have been together for almost 4 years.
i love him dearly but he's not exactly the boyfriend anyone
wants.
he lied to me for 3 years about this girl he used to like. i
forgave him for that. 2 years ago, when he was in the army, he hit
me at the slightest thing. i forgave him for that too. after army,
he stopped hitting me - he claims its the stress.
anyway, i can tolerate all that but his temper is getting to me. he
needs to win at everything. i accomodate him by playing all kinds
of arcade, online, rpg games with him (i do enjoy them to a certain
extent). but if i win him, he gets angry and if i joke that he's a
sore loser - he gets angry too.
i understand how pride is to a guy but is pride everything? i give
in to him for everything. he NEVER apologises, even when i'm right,
i apologise just so that we'll stop quarreling. i admit i do have
my faults as well - nobody's perfect. the thing is - he demands a
perfect girlfriend.. and when i can't meet up to his
"expectations", he will demand that i change to what he
wants.
he has never given in to me all this while. after a quarrel, we
will have a cold war as he will not want to talk to me. i leave him
alone to cool down till the next day. but when he calls the next
day he will demand i reach his house by a certain time if not i'll
"get it from him"
the thing is, i could never bring myself to leave him. maybe cos'
everytime he calls i could never have the heart to reject him. i'm
gg to australia to study at the end of this month and he's supposed
to follow - he has not paid for his fees yet though. i would love
for him to go, but sometimes i feel that if he doesn't, maybe i can
escape from all this.
i know i should face it and not escape but i don't know how long i
can take this from him. i only have a week to decide if he should
go with me cos' my parents are gg too and they expect him to go
too. advice anyone? thanks
I agree that he may not be ideal bf for u, but luv is blind
& i believe u still hav feeling for him. However, u need to ask
urself how do u see this r/s in 5 yrs or 10yrs? Is the man u really
wanns to settle down with?
Definitely, i not asking u to break up him immediately, but i
believe u shld hav a heart to heart chat with him, telling him ur
feeling & the hurt & pain u hav quietly suffered for the
past 4 yrs. Hoping there's still some hope for him to change @
readaptation in ur r/s. I strongly believe u cant always give in to
him, as he must know his limits & to give & take as well.
How much more can u give in to him, how long can u give in to him,
i seriously he shld take ur luv & the r/s for granted.
He shld hav treasure this r/s with u, as i can give u r very
commited to this r/s, which i think it's good, however it's not
fair for just u only. That maybe one of the reason why u having
been feeling so insecureto this r/s & personally how u going to
substain a long oversea r/s?
This conclusion based to ur own analysis, as u r the only one who
know him well & know about ur feeling to the r/s.
