Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Very strong hint of male chauvinist personality in
relationship; strong pride is but a partial product of this effect.
Autocratic - with him, demanding to be on the receiving end and
implanting idealogy into the relationship. Obviously, it wouldn't
work this way, you probably felt how meaningless this relationship
has grown to be, despite the fact that you have been together with
him for four years.
Is it the length of relationship... Or the call of duty... that
made you stay? You can even tolerate violence in relationship; ARE
you SURE that what has happen regarding the way he treated you is
the ACT of love? Of someone behaving to other in love?
You are in a karmic relationship; outsider don't
understand this. (He's probably astrologically intercepted in
5th/7th house)
If you are already hoping that you could go overseas without him,
needing that rest-time, I can tell you frankly that during the
process of your study there, your relationship will definitely
crumble and fall. [b]How much endurance/perseverance can
one relationship be, like yours? With such weak bonds, holding on
by mere blinded love, your relationship won't be able to survive
challenges like this.
With clarity and renew courage, you could probably
find the neccessary element to sever the relationship by
then.
So my question is, if everything else is so chaotic, why are you
still opting for the mess? Thinking that what I have mention above
is baseless? Ok, if you could go overseas without him and come
back, with your relationship still intact, lunch is on me. Add
dinner, or anything you want. It's so predictable because people
don't want to make decision for their relationship and because
people hate making decision, the relationship falls under the
predictable state.
They rather allow
circumstances to make decision for them and not taking lead to
solve or end problems.
In the end, you lose the relationship because circumstances brings
you no choice, not because you had a choice. The difference between
ending it now and later, say if the above scenario really took
place, is that ONE is the result of wisdom and the other the cause
of fate.
I may be fringing` chim or speaking like Greek to you because
currently you may not fully understand what this post is trying to
tell you until you have been there, done that. Because according to
your topic 'Miserable and lost' - you can only be 'peaceful and
found' when you make proper decisions for that to happen. Cycle
repeats; your suffering continues until you make decent decision
for your relationship (To end a relationship doesn't mean evil,
sometimes, it can be a loving thing).
P.S: Is your bf a Leo, Capricorn, Virgo or Scorpio? 
Cheers [/b]
my boyfriend is a leo 
and thanks for your advice i do understand it.
but anyway, if i were to go australia, it would not be just for
time away from him. rather to just leave this relationship.
